A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ok..So here's my story... I have been in an online relationship for about 2 months now. We live a few states away from eachother. We got to a point where we would talk everyday on the phone for hours or text eachother. We would tell eachother how much we loved and cared for one another and how we both felt like we had found our "soulmate" and talk about our day and other random things. Anyway, in the beginning of our relationship, he confided in me and told me things that he said even his closest friends didn't know about. Apparently, during a brief split with his ex girlfriend he got this other girl pregnant. BTW..His ex wanted nothing to do with the child since it wasn't her kid. Anyway, we got on the topic of his ex and I ask him when the last time he spoke to her was. He said that it had been awhile, come to find out he's been dating her again for the last 2 weeks!! I had to find this out after calling his ex and she told me all of this. He said there was no justification as to what he did and that he has been with his ex for over a year and 2 months so there's alot of history between them and that he was very sorry for hurting me like that. He called me the next couple of days and left voicemail messages apologizing and saying that I was his soulmate and that he wants to be with me and that he loves me. He called me again a couple days ago and said for me to atleast "think about" giving him a second chance. After that phone conversation I called him back literally like 2 minutes later to ask him a question about something when his ex answered and said not to call him again. I haven't heard from him since. I still have his baby picture album that i'm sure he'll want back. Do you think he'll ever call me again?? Does he still have feelings for me? Should I call him? What should I do??? Please Help!! I miss him so much!
View related questions:
ex girlfriend, his ex, long distance, soulmate, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): I just wanted to thank those of you who responded. I appreciate the advice given to me and i'm definitately going to put it to good use..Thanks again!! :)
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): NO, he DOESN'T still have feelings for you - if in fact he ever did!He is quite right in saying there is no justification for what he did. He led you to believe he wasn't in contact with his ex, and worse still, when he had split from her at some time previously, he got another woman pregnant - a casual brief encounter after being broken up for a very short time. Yes, NO justification whatsoever. He is selfish and irresponsible.How can you possibly still want to be in touch with him or think he has feelings for you? Look here, his "not ex" TOLD you not to call him again. Yet, you apparently so badly want him back that you are not willing to recognize this is his GIRLFRIEND, NOT his "ex" and you want to ignore the fact that she told you not to call again.Never mind the baby picture. Mail it to him - if he asks for it - no note, just his name, address and the picture.Get over "missing him so much." He's not worth it and you can do so much better than this jerk.
...............................
A
male
reader, Tommy7 +, writes (2 October 2007):
Dump him, he's a jerk.
...............................
A
female
reader, brooke5426  +, writes (2 October 2007):
 hiya,
first of all i'm sorry for what you're going through. it sounds like a painful one. i'm sure you'll get replies saying online relationships arent real and you didnt really know him etc etc....none of that helps when the pain is real enough though!
it sounds to me like there's something very strange going on with him. the ex does not sound to me like an ex. why was he with her when you called him? why did he let her answer his phone? and why was he calling you in the first place when she's there?
i think he is a bit of a player, i know it hurts and is very difficult for you to do but i really think you would be better off without this guy. if you hadnt called the girlfriend and found out they were back together, he would still be playing both of you for fools. and he is still trying to, since he was telling you you're his soulmate and he wants to be with you and how sorry he is, when 2 minutes later she is there with him telling you to stop calling him - obviously he is telling her the same things he is telling you. that he is so sorry, just wants to be with her and doesnt want you to call him.
dont answer when he calls, dont speak to him, its ok to miss him for a while but he doesnt need to know that you do, and it will pass and you'll wonder why you ever even thought about being with someone like him.
and try not to be jealous of his girlfriend, you should feel sorry for her. the poor girls boyfriend is a loser, a player and a liar.
dont let people treat you like that or disrespect you so much. move on to someone better than him who will treat you right.
good luck
brooke
xxx
...............................
|
