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*mmafleisher05
writes:Long story, Short version! I met a great guy, but he had a gf! After seeing him for 3 months he left her, not for me because he did not want to be with her! A month later he asked me to go away with him on holiday and I could not as I have commitments, so he said he was going away on his own, which I thought ok that's fine. He went and two days later his ex phones me and tell's me she is away with him! Also she told me that a week and a half before they left he slept with her! He says it was a rushed moment and he walked out when he came to his senses! Him and I had not been having a full on sexual relationship. He comes back on Friday, say he wants me! What do I do !?!?!?
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Get this waste of space out of your life, he clearly has feelings for his ex. He wants his cake and eat it, when he returns do not attempt to listen to his pathetic excuses.
Tell him that you moved on, and is dating a REAL MAN who is unavilable and treats you like a queen, not some mouse (sorry thats insulting innocent mice) who is always on his exe's beck and call. Good luck!!!
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reader, fedup  +, writes (3 August 2007):
You are in a better position as at least you know what you are dealing with. My boyfriend (?) is blatantly lying to me he is currently away and when he calls he talks about work. When I have called a couple of times my calls have gone unanswered. He comes back on Monday.....I realy don't know how I am going to handle this as in my heart i dont feel the same anymore
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reader, Emmafleisher05 +, writes (2 August 2007):
Emmafleisher05 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well What can I say its been a roller coaster, I decided to carry on seeing the guy when he came back and he has treated me so well ( as he should! ) He apologised and said he was sorry for hurting me and this las few weeks everything has been great !
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): Hi I just read your post and i felt like crying as I am in a similar situation right now. My boyfriend of 4 months said he is currently away on a business trip - he was acting strange and it included the weekend which raised my suspicions. As it turns out both he and his ex are both away from the office on official leave. When i told of my suspisions (before he left) all i got was agression - ther is no trust bla bla bla. He was with his ex for a long time and she is 20 years older than he. It all a bit too wierd but anyway today i get a call how much he loves me and wants to be closer to me - i haven't told him i know about the leave as yet. What does he take me for a yesterdays fool. We have to determine what level of behaviour is acceptable to us - and what we a worth - I admit the signs were there but i chose to ignore because i really wanted this relationship to work. I will not answer any calls and he can search for me on Mars for all i care
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reader, sexi  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Hi, You can start by asking him why did he have to take his ex on holiday with him, he could have taken a friend.
You really do like this guy as i can see because you are still considering having him in your life/future after what has happened. You should get an apology from him and start on a new leaf. Make sure that he is sincere and that he really does love you and would stop hin interactions with his ex gf - If he does not, she would prove to be a problem in the future. Give him an ultimatium: He either stops all contact with his ex (that why she is called and ex gf - she is the past) and then you would plan the future or he can continue with the communication and have nothing to do with you. It either you or her because i am sure you are not prepared to share him or compete woith anyone for him time or love.
Good luck with your decision.
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reader, Emmafleisher05 +, writes (4 July 2007):
Emmafleisher05 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTy for you advice but I thought I should let you know that since he has been gone he has phoned me everyday but 1 and has said that he is missing me and when he comes back he wants a future with me! I just dont know what to do !
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reader, sexi +, writes (4 July 2007):
Hi, Your boyfriend is playing games with your heart and is not being fair to you. Be open and tell him everything and the two of you should confront her and then you would get the truth. If he is lying to you, it is up to you whether you want to forgive him or not. He maybe really truely sorry or he is just going to hurt you again. Don't let him off the hook easily.
PS. Remember if he took her on holiday with him because you could'nt make it, he would probably allow her to take your place for others aspects in your life that you can be there for him. You deserve someone better.
Good Luck!
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reader, LauraE +, writes (4 July 2007):
Dump him! He cheated on you, and then he lied about going away with his ex. A one night stand might be a one-off mistake, but he didn’t ‘accidentally’ take her away on holiday with him did he? And now, he has the nerve to say he wants to come back to you. Arguably, he has trodden all over his ex more than he has trodden over you, because he is using her while you were unavailable, and then plans to dump her. Or does he? I wouldn’t believe a word of it. He doesn’t care that his ex was heart-broken, probably desperately wants him back, and has gone away with him for just that purpose. Why else did she call except to try and split you up, so that she would have a chance with him? He knows what he is doing here; don’t just blame it all on her. OK, she knowingly went with him when she shouldn’t have done, but he’s the cheater. All he is thinking about is what he wants, not how much either of you 2 women suffer in the process. If you have this charmer back, you are giving him carte blanche to mess you around as much as he likes.
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