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writes:Dear Cupid,I'm a solitary man, i live alone and i'm a workaholic.I have a routine lifestyle, i work almost every day go home, eat something, clean the house and watch some tv. In my free time i go swimming and have sex with prostitutes. I don't consider myself a sex-addictbut i sleep with escorts on a weekly basis.It's just part off my lifstyle because i'm single and i live alone and because i own my flat i don't have to pay off anything. I'm happy, consider myself a happy single.Though i don't know any other lifestyle, i never had a wife, girfriend and alway's had little friends so i don't know what that's like. (i somethimes wondered :),My doctor told me i should try to change because it won't benefit me, because i don't want childeren and if i'm able to have a relationship it won't last and i would be worser off financial. I alway's wanted a pretty girl to love me like in the movies. My friend told me that's all crap, he's devorced, he told me i have made the right choice, what do you people think?My mind thinks they right, i just don't have what it takes, relationships are for other kinds off people.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Hi,
Hey everybody have their own preferences and their own life style. I think you are too young to get married and have children. You might not want that now, but as you get older you might change your mind. Meanwhile, I think you should go out, meet people and enjoy life. Don't you get bored doing the same thing? You are living life like a robot. Work, eat, sex. No feelings whatsoever. Life has so much more to offer. Besides your regular routine, don't you want to have real people in your life? People that you can be part of, get to know, make new memories, have new experiences. I think you should try dating, so you'll know what you want from a girlfriend. I am sure you are ok now, because you have everything you need, but with time you'll realize something is missing in your life. Just be careful having sex with random females weekly, be always safe...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): Your so young to be so disallusioned with women marriage etc. I don't think your in the minority with this lifestyle though, judging by the amount of men online dating sites looking for free sex.However they are older generally and have had a relationship/s.
If your happy to continue like this then fine,but I don't think you are if your seeking help from a doctor.
You say you've bought your flat,buy sex and live to work pretty much.Why not spend the spare cash on going out or at least doing something outside your home instead of buying a womans body.? Theres a big world out there.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 What does it matter what offer people think?? If you're happy living this type of life then to each his own.
Of course your recently divorced friend is going to bash women.
If you WANT to CHANGE, then stop paying for sex and try to find a woman of your own. You're 18-21 you still have plenty of time for a wife and children if you wish. But if you don't want to change, then continue on with your life.
Just curious as to why you're seeing a therapist about this??
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): I understand your lifestyle but I think you should aim for more. These women are paid to be nice to you and do what u tell them but its just a business deal to them they dint care about u Aim for a woman who loves you for richer for poorer... And they exist. So many people fall in love all different types of people - why not u? It's easy to pay someone for sex but not as fun as when u meet someone who ur excited every time they text and u see them. The problem is whilst u carry on settling for what u have u arent putting yourself out there tp meet other women. I know u work a lot but try some dates- maybe online dating. U can check profiles and chat before u meet. it's harder as women who aren't paid wont always do what u want and ull ahve to try hardrr with them and some may reject u as is the way with dating but persevere abd you'll meet someone special like in the movies
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): I agree, I also think you are a misogynist.
If you don't want a girlfriend, a wife or a family then so be it. It's your choice. And life is about making choices where you are happy. If you like being single, having little relationships with others and working then stay that way.
I can see why others probably think its a bad idea. The majority of humanity want someone to love, someone to love them, to create babies and plan adventures together. But it's not for everyone.
You seem to see women as a product rather than a human. A Hot girlfriend isn't going to happen. And if it does it won't last, she will want more that you can't give.
I dont think your choice is the best one at all (agree with the Dr here) but I think for you to have a girlfriend and hurt her its bringing another innocent person into the equation, and possible even more. If you are happy paying for sexual gratification and not sharing your life with another person then definitely stay as you are!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): I'm in two minds whether this is a joke. If its not, have you kept count on how many different escorts you've had? Well i bet you've had more women than me. You have more money than me. You have more of everything than me. . Yes people are right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): Happy people don't change what they're doing. No matter what anyone tells you, you will still live the same way because how you live causes you no pain or misery. It doesn't bother you to not have close friendships so there will not be any motivation to build relationships and do the work to keep them.
It's interesting you are seeing a doctor about this though. Was that your idea? Most people don't usually see a professional unless their lifestyle isn't working for them.
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