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writes:Hey aunts.I'm a 14 year old guy and turning 15 in a few days. My life is so complicated but yet too simple at the same time. I don't know what to do. Everything pretty much sucks for me. I never get anything easy. Everything bad always has to happen to me. I don't really have a social life..or friends who actually truly care. I've never had a girlfriend or that one first kiss that actually means something. So my life is pretty lonely...with my parents..who i don't get along with. They don't understand me at all..and we always but heads. So i barely speak to them.I don't know what to do, i'm always sad, miserable and in a depressing state. So i kinda gave up on life. I feel like my life is pointless. So nothing really excites me anymore, i just don't care about anything. Life is depressing. I'm a horny teenage guy, and i'm confused about my sexuality. Im getting alot of stress from work at school and it makes things 5 times worse. So i really dont know how to cope anymore. And all that is just the beginning. My life is one sad tale. And it would take years to explain. I just wanna know what you guys think i should do...or your thoughts. thank you
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reader, Foxie  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 [Moderator note: Personal information deleted.]Mate, do not give up. Most of us were in same situation. And me too. About 3 years ago, I was exactly same as you. And I though about suicide or anything like that, but it was totally stupid idea. Never give up on life. Just wait for 2 years. I'm sure you will find your friends. I do not any idea about love because I have not been in a real love relationship. But believe me there are lot of happy and beautiful things in life that you do not even imagine.
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reader, lucy.whittaker  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 Hey honey,
Don't listen to this 'clinically depressed' stuff, there's nothing abnormal or unhealthy about what you're feeling. You're 14 years old, it's the worst age to be. BUT don't despair, it's all up from here :) We all go through times when life feels horrid, i'm not in the best place at the moment myself, but the thing to do is to imagine yourself in an amazing future and not to feel downhearted when things don't go so well. You will find a girlfriend, that first kiss, you will get on with your parents one day and any confusions you have will resolve themselves which ever way they go. School gets better and you don't meet your friends for life in high school. If you ever feel low, just think about how much potential you have. If you ever want to talk, send me a message :)
Keep smiling
Lucy XxX
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): Ah, 14 years old huh? The Junior high age I'm sure. Yeah, school can be stressful in those years. But trust me, the later years of school get MUCH better. I was in the same state as you are. I'm pretty sure many of us were. What I would do about your parents is to have an honest talk with them. Other than that, all I can say is live for the present, tank through hard times and believe that life gets better, because it does.
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reader, good soul  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 hey dude....... trust me that life is a million times better than what you think it is.
just wait till you develop a crush or get a girlfriend.
then you will realise that all you said in this question is just worthless.
at your age, you are going theough extreme moodswings. even i had it when i was your age , about 2 years ago.
then i got my girl, which changed everything.
just dont be such a pessimist.
relax and learn to enjoy life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): It sounds like you could be clinically depressed...you should see a doctor.Other than that..put a plan together for a better future. It might take a while to work it all out, but having a plan and working to accomplish something, gives you hope for the future and will help tremendously. If you need help in doing this, ask a counselor at school to help you, that is what they are there for :)You are young and can have a good life ahead of you, but you are going to have to make it happen, you can do that! You can make your life anything you want it to be, people will help you if you ask. If you concentrate your mind on being miserable, it will persist and be your reality..so get working on keeping your mind busy with a positive future.
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reader, Confusedwesttexasguy +, writes (14 November 2009):
i can promise you that everything is not as bad as it seems. its a thousand times worse when you get older and have to worry about bills, rent, food, work, realationships, family,...... you just need to relax and let things take their cource. everybody has the exact same problem at some point in their life. your parents do understand you and what you are going through. everyday i learn exactly how smart my old man is, when i was your age he was always wrong. now that im older and wiser, he was never wrong. as far as the girl problems there is no advice i can give other than try to be someone that a girl wants to hang out with. you dont always have to be the best looking guy to get the girl, im living proof. the whole social life thing and friend problem. either youre not being someone that people want to be around (moody, depressed, angry), or you need to make better friends that actually care about you. so dont give up, enjoy being a teenager, have fun, be fun, laugh, joke, smile. dont be mad that your parents dont understand you, try understanding them, it will save you a whole lot of grief.
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