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writes:I've been with a guy for a year and a half it started out wrong, I accepted they way he is. He used to cheat on me and say it's meaningless and he just does it to feel "relieved".. he never used to be there for me when I needed him and he bugged me a lot for the past year and I was scared to leave him because I'm in love with him, so I started talking to one of his friends that he chills with almost everyday to know if he's cheating on me or doing anything wrong behind my back, I called his friend almost every day and I only talked to his friend about him but I think his friend started to have feelings for me because he was acting very weird with me.We went out together a couple of times I was only helping him out as a friend and I respected that he was there for me when I needed to talk, so my boyfriend found out that we were talking and going out sometimes behind his back and he went crazy, he started having images in his head that we were having an affair and all that.. because I got drunk and I called him because I had no one else to talk to, I didn't do anything wrong with his friend, I love my boyfriend so much but he wasn't there for me and his friend was the perfect guy to talk to because he's a loser and he has nothing to do.I talked to my boyfriend about it but he doesn't seem to believe because I always lied on little things so now he doesn't believe me and he says that me talking to his friend is a huge mistake and all the mistakes he has done are nothing compared to that and he's trying to make me feel guilty, he slept with girls got drunk and I forgave him and now he doesn't want to forgive me for something stupid I've done that didn't mean anything! The only reason I always lie to him is because I don't want to lose him and it's not like I'm having an affair or doing anything wrong it's just that I needed someone to talk to.. I admit that it's wrong that I didn't tell him but I think now he realized that he wasn't there for me that's why I talked to his friend, I don't know what to do, I love my boyfriend so much and I'm hurt and I can't live without him! help please...
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reader, Racky +, writes (31 December 2008):
 hi chick i understand how hard it is to walk away but please walk away before you get stuck in a trap i got stuck in a trap for 4 years and i have now lost everything my dream wedding and friends. Please find someone that wants you only and respects you and your feelings xxx
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reader, peaches08 +, writes (2 March 2008):
 Dont go back to him - He sleeps with other girls and you say you love him?My god, i thought my ex was a complete loser but yours makes mine look like an angel.Move on find someone who can respect you and while your at it get some self respect!!!!
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reader, Daisy Mae  +, writes (2 March 2008):
Girl, grow up and put on some big your girl panties!!! That guy was just using you and perhaps his little friend was in on it too!!! OMG! Find good guys who will treat you nice, unless you like being used? I hope you hate it and learn how to love and respect yourself. Once you do that, then you'll be healthy enough to choose nice men. Until then, try to learn what it takes to love YOU!!! first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe agreed on breaking up and go our separate ways but he can't live without me and initiate a conversation every night before he goes to sleep.. he said that hes very sad and he cannot live without me, so were back but he keeps on getting images in his head of me with other guys and its really annoying because im loyal to him, we agreed that we'll get back together if he change, but hes hurt and hes acting weird with me.. i love him so much and i dont know why i feel that he wants me back now to get back at me or something im really confused...
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reader, hello1 +, writes (1 March 2008):
 Do you know who weak and pathetic you sound? Seriously read through your post, realise how much of a loser your b/f sounds. I think it's a blessing that this guy dumped you as you don't have the strength to do it yourself. If you want to get kicked by a loser, then fine but I'm not giving you any advice for it.
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