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writes: Hello Friends! I need some advice. My LDR is crumbling and I think neither of us wants to hurt the other. We have decided to talk to eachother less. Instead of every night, we will talk every other night, but I was really suggesting a longer break then that. We both agree that "this is no way to live." I think we both want to move on. I was planning to move to his area in a month but have postponed my plans indefinitely. The thing is, I don't feel too bad about it. I was madly in love with him until he started acting like a jealous jerk. It has killed something in me, and I am actually feeling relieved tonight that it could be coming to an end. I told him I didn't want to go through life walking on eggshells. He said "living with me (him) you will be walking on eggshells more than you realize." That's not how I want to spend the rest of my life! What do you suggest I do now? Should I give it more time, and let it die a slow death or should I just end it and be done?Thanks for listening! Thanks for your advice. BTW, I am the anonymous poster who was made to feel like a dirty little slut! Remember the whole Johnny Depp fiasco?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Ladies! You have given me the strength to do what I know I need to do. I just have to choose my words carefully and be very caring when I do it. I don't want to be the cause of another heart attack! I am going to wait till he calls me tomorrow night and see how the conversation goes. I thank you again. I don't know what I would do without this site!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): I'm sorry this has ended for you. All the time you've invested, and now this. But still, it did fill a need to be cared about. I'm relieved for you this happenend now instead of 'after the move', that would've been devestating. Divine intervention was happening here.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): Yep, this most definitely is his problem, not yours, to solve. I think you are smart to end this. The problem with jealousy here, is when you are the victim of it, you want to escape, flee like hell, especially when one is accusing the other of something they didn't do. We all know that jealousy is about ownership and control, snooping and suspicion. All these are damaging, less than admirable qualities in a person and it has nothing to do with love. And he's made the comment, that "living with me (him) you will be walking on eggshells more than you realize." Which I have found the oddest statement to make--it's almost as if he 'wants' to scare you away. Why would he be so dense as to say that? So what should you do...end it cleanly as as quickly as possible. The sooner you do this, the sooner you recover. Don't waste another moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Jezebel! In my heart I know I have to end it! I always preach Honesty,Trust,and Communication. I think it's time I practice what I preach! It's always easier to give advice than to follow it!
Britt
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): I think there isnt any reason to drag it on and on if you feel this way. Better to make a clean break so you can start fresh. Sometimes people hold on to something just so they dont have to face being alone. If he truly "killed" something inside you as far as your relationship goes then I think that there is no getting it back. Move on so you both can be happy!
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