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writes:My situation has just got out of hands,totally a mess,im in a ldr with a guy for almost a year now,we never meet,n if we do its like once or twice in a year,i havent seen him for six months now,we just text or call,now i met a new guy whom we started dating its now seven months now and we love each other,i never broke up with the ld guy,so recently my new man found out everything that i have been cheating on him,he got angry and said that i can stay with my man,so what i did is told him the whole truth which just accelerated the arguement,when i told the ld guy i love someone else i met and things got serious,he says he cant and wont ever let me go,he can even come to where i am now to solve issues,and that he has done alot for this relationship,noway he could let another man take his place,problem is im certain i love the new man and he is giving me a last opportunity to fix things,n says if i wanna be with him,i should quit talking to the ld guy cause thats like cheating,what do i do yet the ld guy keeps texting that he cant let me goo even when i've told him its over between us?help me please
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2012): I am surprised your now worried about cheating, when you cheated on your long distance boyfriend. Honestly you have done the wrong thing here and treated your longdistance guy with absolute disrepect and showed that your not mature enough for relationships. Honestly I don't know how to help you because this long distance guy if far better off without someone like you in his life. You have already proved to this long distance guy that your a liar and a cheat, so why should he believe you when you say your serious about this new guy? Any relationship whether it is long distance or not deserves loyalty, and if you do not want to be in the relationship anymore, you break up with the other relationship first before starting to date someone else. I think he is simply trying to show you how it feels to be disrepected and as if your feelings don't matter, since that's how you have treated him. Learn from this so you treat people with a lot more respect and you will find then they will be inclined to treat you with the same respect. I don't know how you can be certain you love this new man, because I truly doubt you know what love is, I am sure you claimed to love this long distance guy too. How about spending some time learning to be a better person and how to be on your own, grow up a little and then worry about relationships once you have done that. I am sorry to be so harsh, but a person who has cheated on someone already and claims that they are worried about cheating on this new person by talking to the person they did the dirty on is pathetic and hypocritical.
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