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anonymous
writes:Help! I have been in a long distance relationship for 6 months now, and I am so confused about how he feels about me. He hasn't said 'I love you', he is moving into a mortgaged house with his guy mate, which means he's making no plans to move anytime soon. He's really nice guy, we talk on the phone nearly every night, see each other every weekend, met his family and friends. But I want to start a family and I really don't know where this is going? Or if he sees a future with me? I'm trying to look for signs and avoid the talk so I don't look needy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2014): You've only been together for 6 months and it's been an LDR.
If you see each other every weekend as you say then you've spent a grand total of 48 days in each other's company.
Is that really enough to start planning a marriage and children together? For most people it's not as you don't really know each other yet. In this case, he hasn't even said he loves you.
I would ask him, in general what his goals are and where he sees himself in about 5 years. Professionally and personally. If he doesn't mention marriage and children of his own accord without you pointedly asking about those two things specifically then you may not be on the same wavelength.
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reader, lifesgreat +, writes (3 December 2014):
As a bloke ... 6 months for me seems to early to say I love you.
Also take in that usually the women fall in love first and then blokes fall after...but harder.
hmm about him buying a place with his mate , I can understand why that would be a concern as it is a big commitment.
up to you ..raise that concern with him .. it could be in a jokey sense somehow . Ie I hope when we buy a house together its a bigger one..
Also it usually takes 2 months to buy a place , and I bet him and his mate have had it planned for a while.
So I imagine at around 4 months into your relationship , he would not think to suddenly stop buying a property .
good luck
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