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writes:im in a ldr and my boyfriend is 15 years older than me his nice guy we had ups and down to be in this hard long distance relationship,before we been together as bf/gf we started we talk to regularly on skype everyday we have different time so we adjust time for each other.and he said nice things and he always said he likes me. i fall in love with him because his different when i talk to him. now im totally in love with him. hes planning to visit me. and im excited to be with him. our past days conversation been great. but theres one time that i felt that. he just like me to just date with me. and im so upset about it. its been 1 year we been talking on internet phone. and he visit me before twice. so now he will go here spend time with me. im thinking that maybe hes just wanted a date.. to hook up even though he always said that "its ok if your not ready i can wait till we get married" - its not i just dont want. but im scared to be taking for granted. that to be used and after dump after what he gets. everytime he said that you go here in my country and lets date. i really feel something that not that special.. i expect more to him like i want you to go here with me and be with me and to plan everything. as of now.cause i dont think he has a good intentions about us or have a real couples commitment with me.. its been one year trying to be a good girl and changed for everything just to prove to him that i deserve to be treated like a serious relationship that one day can lead to be his future life.. but i dont know where do we stand now .. im thinking that hes just using me because he knew that i fell in love with him..and thats why im controlling myself to sleep with him and to have sex. because i dont want to be used and treat me like stupid bitch..
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 March 2012):
 if you are just in it for right now and fun and games you don't need to prove to him that you are the right one...
if you are the right one it will magically happen.
to be honest with the distance and the age gap I don't want to see you put all your eggs in one basket. in other words, don't stop living your life for this man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question no he never mistreat me. hes a nice.. really far im from singapore and he lives at australia. we see ecah other once a year. anyway were just 6 months from now. aand one year talking skype. he just twice visited me last year.. im just a student up to know. maybe graduate first and lets see whats next he havent ask me anything yet, hes stable job and i dont know what hes plan.. as of now im thinking that enjoy and have fun. i dont wanna worry in the future.. but i might need that one to come to think of it. to value our relatioship. but how will i prove to him. that im the right one..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 March 2012):
Wow… where did “stupid bitch” come from? You have not said anything that indicates that he mistreats you…
How far apart are you?
How often do you see each other
What’s the plan to close the distance?
If you are LDR and have no plans to be NOT be LDR then I would say with your fears and doubts you are better off letting this one go.
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