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writes:I don't know where his head is at, and I was forced to leave even though I didn't want to.Here is the story: My LD friend and I grew much closer than friends over time. We've visited each other a few times, but the last time was the only time we seemed to clash a bit.Next thing I know, he's (seemingly purpsefully) picked a fight and "dumped"(for lack of a better word) me. I was heartbroken...had no idea what I had done to deserve such treatment, especially since I had always stood by him faithfully. I know there isn't someone else involved. Just trust me, I know there isn't. 6 weeks go by with no word, and just as I am starting to get on with my life (unhappily, but moving on) he contacted me, wanting to try again.Needless to say, I was estatic, but, just when we were starting to get our feet under us, a tragedy occured in my family which caused me to be very stressed and upset. I leaned on him for support. The rug was rudely pulled out from under me. He became rude and cruel and uncaring.I couldn't handle such insensitivity at this time, and I couldn't believe he, who used to be so caring and kind, would be like that. This was not someone I knew anymore.After a while I asked him right out about it. He said he had no idea why I loved him, no idea why I would want him around, and that he didn't feel the same way, and that there was no future for us. Apart from his cruelty, there was none of the typical avoiding phone calls or emails. He was always unfailingly polite to me on the phone, only in email was he cruel. He would never discuss anything serious in person, only via email.I had no choice. I couldnt' carry the relationship alone, so, I left. Again, I am heartbroken. I have no idea why, after all this time, he could feel so little for me when just a week before he originally picked a fight we were both devastated at parting.I know I have to move on, but, I'll always wonder why. Maybe some of the gentlemen can enlighten me.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I actually was wondering about that. He had gone to see a shrink once last year and refused to go back after one session, which, I gather was not a pleasant experience.
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reader, HeartBlossom  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 It could be Borderline Personality Disorder. You'll never know for sure (certainly he wouldn't/shouldn't accept a diagnosis based on your observations), but if you look it up, imagining that's the answer might offer some comfort. Good luck.
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