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writes:Long distance Bf (3years) constantly chats up on whatsapp with his reunion group (starting 2015).. They go on for hours.. I know he is not playing behind me but I get really irritated and we end up fighting.. He even chats while we are fighting.. Am I right to be irriated or am i paranoid? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2015): He apparently doesn't take the LDR as seriously as you do.
Consider your options. One being to end it!
He's an adult. He can talk to whomever he wants to, whenever he pleases. All you can really do about it is get angry when he is carrying on parallel conversations.
If you've conducted your relationship this way over devices over the years, what's the problem now? When do you plan to be in the same place at the same time? Why is this a long-distance relationship in the first place?
No, I'm sorry; a real boyfriend is a guy you get to see and spend time with on a regular basis. You have a remote device-connected relationship with a guy who talks to you like he does his friends; and there is no distinguishable difference. I see exactly why you're irritated.
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reader, Lovehurts6 +, writes (1 November 2015):
Lovehurts6 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo he doesn't chat while we are talking on the phone.. But while we are chatting there are parallel chats..we are together for years so he js the real bf.. It's just that I get irritated with his constant two-three hour chats..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2015): Get a real boyfriend who can spend time with you. You can go out, snuggle together, and be a couple. He's just a chat-mate.
Don't get angry because he gets bored trying to conduct a relationship through devices. How much time can he really spend just talking to you? Your relationship is all talk and no action. Now you're irritated because he has other options.
He's chatting with a group of his friends. You're basically just a friend, if all you do is communicate through devices. Think about it.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 November 2015):
 So you are saying while talking to you on the phone, Skype, IM he is also chatting with a group of people?
If that is so, I'd cut the conversation short. And keep doing that till he figures out that his PARTNER (you) should have his undivided attention during a conversation.
However if he is talking to them (mostly) when NOT talking to you, I don't see the problem. How much he wants to socialize is not really for you to regulate.
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