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writes: One guy is staying opposite to my home. I am seeing him there for almost one year. The very first time he used to stare at me but i just ignored. Sometimes he will be doing something to impress me but i just ignored. I started neglecting him and got busy with my life. one day some situation has happened he just smiled at me and i too and after that whenever seeing me he is just saying hi and bye. For a few months i was in abroad and i didn't see him and i almost forgot about that guy.The time i came back he saw me and talked to me. I didn't feel anything odd. But after that whenever i am going out he too will come out if i am wearing red he too will be wearing same color if black then he will be in black i have noticed this for so many times. And he can see me from his window ,so if i am going out and he too will come out and just say one hai ,nothing else. I feel like he is not as before now he is trying hard to impress me. If I am talking on phone with someone then he will come out and giving a rough look as if he didn't like whenever i am on phone. After that for 2 or 3 days he won't come out. I don't know whether he is too childish or getting serious about me.But the problem now is Whenever i am seeing him i am feeling like he is kiddish and i started liking him. If he is not there i started missing him. But I don't know anything about that guy only knows he is an IT professional. Around 7 months he didn't see me but still he is the same ,he didn't forget me. Before I thought he was just passing time with me but now i am not. If I am seeing him nowadays I am feeling nervous and unable to talk to him properly. What to do? Please help me out. I think i have fallen for him but i don't want this i just want to get out of this relation. Please help me out. Reply to this Question
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reader, vaigha +, writes (2 November 2015):
vaigha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your valuable comments ..!!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 November 2015):
 Honestly, he sounds creepy. OR maybe that is just me. I had a stalker when I was in my 20's. He would call and say the weirdest things, among them comments about my clothing. Which meant that he was WATCHING me, and I actually lived with my blinds closed for quite a while.
This guy DRESSES in the same colors as you so he is LOOKING at you (binoculars or what not) so that he can match your shirt? FREAKING creepy. I don't know why you take it as a compliment at all.
It's been ALMOST a year and he doesn't say more than hi to you. So he treats you like a stranger and you treat him like a stranger. Because? HE is a stranger. I don't really think you have "fallen for him" (again because you don't know him from Adam) but yo have enjoyed his attentions even if they were barely there.
If you are so keen on him why not walk up to him one day when you see him and say: " hi, my name is Anne, figured I'd introduce myself" and see where it takes you.
I still say he is a creeper though.
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reader, Tottochan  +, writes (1 November 2015):
If you are not interested in having a relationship with him, then I think that you should start ignoring him, or at the very most, be polite but brusque with answers to any of his questions.If you talk a little more, or you have certain body language that suggests that you like him back, or like the attention he is giving you, then his behaviour will simply continue.Cut back on talking to him, and if he asks you if there is anything wrong, then simply say that everything is fine. He might brood or sulk, but if you are firm in your own head about not encouraging him, then just let him be. He should understand how things stand on his own.Best of luck.
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