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writes: Hi, I'm 17 years old and have been dating a girl for over a year now. I have a little jealousy problem though.When she was 14, she lost her virginity. Now, to me that seems way too young. I mean, if it was 16 or something I'd feel a little better about it. She has also had more sexual partners than I have before because I've only been with her and she's been with 3 other guys.I feel like a student to her. I do love her and she loves me too, so I don't want to just break up with her.Is there any way I can get over this jealousy because its tormenting my mind every day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2005): I understand where you are coming from- I was there around the same age as you and it sucked! BUT, at her age and 3 people actually isnt a heck of a lot of experience believe it or not. I know that it might seem that way but from what i have seen, most women dont seem to really exhibit experience until they are older/have had much more sex. So, maybe you can give her that extra experience-maybe think of it that way? And of course you can get more experienced with her- lots of communication about what you are doing, read sex books, the Tao of health, sex and longevity (or something that) I found very useful. All lovers really have to learn from each other somewhat because most are different in different ways. I know it can be so difficult to not think of those other fellas but that is over with and when one is done with a lover, one usually doesnt think so much about that other person when they are with the present one. Its in the past and its almost like it never happened. I know how that damn jeoulous feeling can keep those memories alive but for sure she is not keeping those memories alive. That might seem hard to imagine at the present time but its true especially since you guys have been together for some time and must be pretty close. Well, best of luck and remember that she is with you because she wants to be with you- maybe remind yourself of that- and keep in mind that she is assuredly learning about sex from you as well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2005): i am 15 n lost my v. alot earlier. i have recently got with my bf who hadnt lost it yet. i love him so much and his lack ov experience does not effect me in the slightest, if she loves u it wont matter to her n thats all u have 2 think about.x
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reader, kt  +, writes (14 August 2005):
 dont get jealous, girls like a confident partener it dont matter how many other people she has been with - forget about the past its the future that counts but if you still dont feel comfortable talk to her about it, at least your honest about it, and you never know she might be makeing some of it up to give her more confidence.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (14 August 2005):
 Hi, I understand how you feel that 14 was too young to lose your virginity. Remember though that we all have different lifestyles. You being not experienced should never taint her love for you. Don't feel like that. Why would you want to break up with her? Jealously is something that eats away at your relationship. Don't let it. Understand that she had a life before you...it is just what is. If people were to get jealous because of previous relationships that would be choas. My companion had a life before me....he's human...and she is human...once you know that she is committed to you...that is all you need to know really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2005): Im in EXACTLY the same situation as you mate and its plays on my mind everyday too i feel so bad and insecure i would give anything to change my boyfriends past but i cant, you cant changed what she has done in her past its not like she has cheated on you is it? i honestly do understand how you feel the way i look at it is your the only person she is sleeping with now and your obviously in love with each other isnt that enough not to end the realtionship? she will never understand how you feel just like my boyfriend doent understand how i feel! its obvious she trusts you other wise she wouldnt have told you the truth about her past, my boyfriend never told me the truth he lied to me for about a year and i found out about his past off his best friend in a room full of people and i felt so stupid! she must have alot of respect for you and im ny opionon if you love her you shouldnt end the realatioship! in time you will find a way to deal with how you feel and you will eventually forget about it, honestly mate it just takes time i feel really sorry for you i really hope you can get over this! Good luck i hope my advice was of use to you!
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