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writes:I was seeing someone up until recently...when we were together, it was completely amazing, and we both agreed that we had this brilliant connection. Id had bad relationship experiences in the past, being led up the garden path and such, and I knew he was "into me", as he called all the time, txt, etc etc.Unfortunately he lives a fair distance away, and so couldnt see each other as often as I wanted, and I found myself getting jealous, wondering what he was getting up to and such, and Ive driven him away. Last I heard from him, was a week ago, telling me he didnt want to be with me anymore, because of how Id been behaving. I was gutted, I tried apologising, sent texts and such, but he just completely blanks me....What we had was so so good, and its my own stupid jealousy thats pushed him away, I am loathe to give up on him, should I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): You need to walk away from this one and just put it down to experience. You have probably cured yourself of this green eyed monster. Jealousy is a killer! I know i have been there. It eats away at you and destroys all you have. If you two were that close then he wouldn't give up on you that easy. Don't beat yourself up about this and just get out there and find yourself someone else.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): You need to walk away from this one and just put it down to experience. You have probably cured yourself of this green eyed monster. Jealousy is a killer! I know i have been there. It eats away at you and destroys all you have. If you two were that close then he wouldn't give up on you that easy. Don't beat yourself up about this and just get out there and find yourself someone else.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): I know this is hard to do, but I suggest waiting for him to contact you. already said you are sorry so he knows this. If you keep trying to contact him over and over to let him "know" how sorry you are, you'll probably drive him away (I know from experience). If you guys really did have a great connection he will probably start to miss you and call you back when he is ready to talk to you.
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reader, Psyche  +, writes (20 February 2007):
I recommend taking a few steps back and reflecting. Jealousy is dangerous and very unattractive.I would give him a break. Don't bug him. You are reaching out to him to affirm that you are okay. YOU need to affirm that you are okay. You can never, ever, ever expect another person to make it all okay for you. I speak from experience. Give him time and eventually you can reach out and smooth things over. In the meantime, I recommend diving inward. If you have noticed a pattern in your relationships, then the probelm probably lies with in you. Not to say there is something wrong with you. But humans have an amazing ability to repeat the past AND to attract the same types of people over and over again. That is, until we figure out what messages we are sending out, take responsibility for ourselves and make a conscious effort to change. I dated jerks all my life. Maybe one or two decent, but not great, guys. After an abusive relationship I took 4 years off and sought counseling. I needed to find out why I attracted "losers." When I discovered my inner truth I began to date again and found an amazing, beyond wonderful man. Love MUST first start with you. You must love yourself totally. We can't look outside of ourselves for someone or something to fill us up. When we do, we tax that thing or person. Love yourself. Take time to get to know yourself. You will be amazed at how many people fall in love with you, once you have a secure personal foundation. Cheers
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reader, AskEve +, writes (20 February 2007):
 I would send him a card and tell him he's right, you have been stupid and selfish and jealous because of the distance. Let him know that you realise that now and you trust him more than anything else. You also love him very much and miss him so much, if he can just give you the chance you'll prove to him that you can be the best, most supportive girlfriend ever.
Eve
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