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writes: Ok so I have this Internet friend. I really like her a lot she is really pretty even though others don't think so and shes super funny and nice and likes a lot of the same stuff as me. I finally got the guts to tell her. She has a girlfriend already and does not feel the same way. I don't know what to do and I have actually liked her for a very long time but I have never said anything because shes so amazing and im just....me. I feel heartbroken and I don't know what to do. Also please no Internet safety lectures I know ,I know, and im not completely stupid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2014): I know someone who spends much of his time playing video games and on the computer. He liked a girl on the internet and they began a relationship, if you can call it that. She broke up with him and dated two other guys just to spite him for something he did or said. They "got back together and she broke it off and didn't communicate with him for months. They again got together and she had been with another guy before she even broke it off. Who knows if anything she said or did is true but he went through all of that for a girl he never met. For all he knows, she could have bedded dozens of people the entire time.Internet safety is very important but of course people your age like to believe they know it all, they the seriousness of the things they get into. Wait for 10 or 15 years to go by.Anyway, you have never met her so all you have is her word. The word of someone you have never even seen is worthless. Find a real girl. You are way too young to be feeling heart broken, especially over a virtual friend.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (1 April 2014):
There are plenty of real girls out there, so don't feel too bad that you missed out on a chance at a virtual relationship. Besides,you're taking it personally and it's not; she's already with someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2014): Have you seen her on webcam? Or met (with a parent) in public in real life? I don't ask just for internet safety, but because people act all different online because they can be who they want and the differences show in person.I spoke to a guy online for 3 years and we were great friends, even considered more, but I rationalised it and accepted that, in real life, we weren't as compatible as we were as online friends. Don't get me wrong, it felt awesome because we could, and did, talk for 14 hours straight sometimes, but there were practical things in his life that clashed with mine (like his best friend who he had a crush on) and vice versa (from an outside perspective, as a friend, I could see she was manipulating him to keep him hanging, but he didn't want to see it). It is a fantasy life online and fantasies rarely "survive" when real life challenges it. Just bear that in mind. You need to distance yourself from her because you BOTH have lives when the internet is switched off - hers includes a girlfriend. You need to lessen the contact to a minimum, so you can move on healthily.
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