A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys, I came here last week for some help over a really painful break up I'm going through. The one where my girlfriend broke up with me due to her mental illness (depression, anxiety and eating disorder). I received lots of very helpful opinions and kind words. This week, the raw pain of it all has subsided quite a bit. However, it's been replaced with this feeling of fairly severe anxiety. I'm a very low anxiety person, so it's a bit unusual for me and I'm not sure where it's coming from. When I first wake up, I feel the anxiety. And when I know I have to leave work and go home alone, I feel it, also. Sometimes I have to take deep breaths and soothe and relax myself. I've never had a panic attack before, but I feel that if I don't get a grip on the anxiety at the time, it may boil over into one. What is causing this feeling? I've never experienced anxiety before from a break up like this. Usually just sadness but in the end, I always knew it was for the best because we weren't right for each other. In this case, it doesn't feel for the best. I wanted to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. We said we both wanted the same. I know I'm getting to where I need to be. My heart is healing and will continue to heal. I guess I'm just struggling with how to deal with this anxiety. Any suggestions and explanations as go why it's happening? It's really uncomfortable. I keep letting it run it's course and I keep not allowing myself to suppress it. It's just I want this anxiety to go away! Thanks again for any answers!
View related questions:
a break, broke up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2014): See your primary-care physician. You may only need a mild sedative. You're going through grief, and you may also be having a some residual empathy-pains leftover from being around your sick girlfriend so much. Don't self-diagnose. Grief causes anxiety. You're also under stress and not doing anything to alleviate it.
You're going from home to work, and back. No real rest, no relaxation, no fun. Just from point-A, to point-B.
You may need a vacation to rest the nerves. You are probably a very serious and intense personality-type. Your mind is always going full-speed, and you're always in analytical-mode. Humans can't function like that, before something has to give. You also need to get plenty of sleep. If you're sleep-deprived, that only adds to your problem.
See the doctor and get a complete physical. Waste no time.
You're stressed-out! Your blood-pressure is probably through the roof!
|
