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30-35,
*onfusedinlove0615
writes:So I'm in a little bind with my girlfriend. We have been dating for going on two years now and it seems like this last 6 months she has completely changed. In ways such as she has this friend she is extremely close to, talks to all the time, goes out together but I can never come nor has she made any plans to go out with me these past months. I have a little issue myself. I am very needy for attention and when I don't get it I feel betrayed, alone, and depressed. All because of my issues and comments I make our relationship has gone down the drain. She tells me all the time she doesn't want to end things and she loves me but why wont things change? How can I get past my attention binge? I feel like I am damaging us because I want her to spend more time with me and less time out. How do I get past not texting or call her while she is out or worrying what she's doing/who she's with?? I absolutely love this girl but if I can't fix this I can't keep going on hurting like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): hey, i have the exact same problem, there is this girl who i have been really good friends with for the past 2 years now and i recently told her that i liked her as more than a friend, and she was really cool about it but she told me that she liked someone else but it didn't change the way i felt about her. anyway, im in university now and i don't get to see her very often except when i get to come home for holidays or a weekend so every time i come home i want to get together with her so i send her a txt or a FB message saying im coming home and asking if we can hang out and sometimes i get a response right away and sometimes it takes a few days to a week or so, and i get the same way, i start txting her asking her if she got my FB messages and it even got to the point where she got upset at me asking her so much (twice). So anyway i guess "my" advice is and im sorry if it sounds Nerdy but i think its an awesome quote "Attachment leads to jealousy, train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose"- Master Yoda. Hope this helps, GOOD LUCK
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): Well I read your post, I exacly know how you feel, I have been thru that I would suggest you... Dedicate more time to yourself, and to things you think are interesting. It can be any kind of activity, the more time you keep yourself busy the best. Also the healthier this tasks are the better... I mean you could spend more time drinking with your friends or playing video games, but I would suggest you to choose something healthy as yogging or go swimming for twice a week. The outcome will be: if you leave your phone at home while you are busy, normaly she will be impressed you are not being a pain already,and also because it will make you look better, you will feel more confident. Try to keep yourself as busy as possible, also a trip with your friends might help... few days off with some friends... and keep yourself busy with things that can be good for your mind and soul, as sports or learning something... It is very important that you focus on that, everything you will get in return will be good.
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