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writes:Okay, so this is a pretty embarrasin' question, but i really need advice.The thing is, i'm 15 nearly 16, but i'm really not comfortable with my body in any shape or form. When i say things to people, i'm really genuine and don't do it for attention, and people know this.I'm not being big'headed in the slightest here, just telling you the way it is, but i do seem to get alot of attention when it comes to my appearance, and it seems to really annoy people that i don't like my body.I have really small boobs[which i hate], and idk what it is, but down there i seem to have a sort of bit of extra skin which is inbetween my actual "lips" or w/e.I'm really worried that it's not normal, and it hard for my boyfriend to kind of get in there.I can talk to him about absolutly anything, whether it's sex or just general chitchat and i know he loves me for who i am, not just the way i look to him, and it bugs him how i can't relax, even though he never shows it and just tries to please me the best he can.We've recentley been experimenting with sexual stuff, and were both virgins, but because i hate my body so not exactly experienced when it comes to this much, i find it hard to let him do stuff with me[as i explained why before]. If anyone has anytips to help me become more relaxed? reassure me i'm/its normal:/?Or just how to let my boyfriend know this without being to vague?please, any advice? thanks x
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reader, Marco262  +, writes (26 June 2008):
Sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel. Then tell him that you need him to constantly tell you how beautiful you are. You'll be surprised at the result...
When I started dating my girlfriend, she just couldn't be convinced that she was beautiful at all. Since then, I've been telling her how beautiful she was at least once a day and her confidence has grown visibly.
Lastly, and this may sound a little cold but, wouldn't your boyfriend have a better idea of how beautiful you are than you? He's the one who decided to fall in love with you; you were stuck in your own skin. Listen to the man! He knows what he's talking about.
P.S. Regarding your skin down there, not only is it difficult for girls to be penetrated comfortably when they're not completely aroused, virgins are tighter than most. Keep having fun and experimenting (SAFELY!) and it will get easier as you go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel about your body. Don't rush sex at all, as it seems you're unprepared for it. When you're prepared, be sure to be protected.
A good excersise you can do that is simple and practical is that in the morning when you wake up and have cleaned yourself, look in the mirror and smile and say "I'm a beautiful person, both inside and out". It will seem like a lie for you at first, but if you constantly say it to yourself, giving it time, it will work. I know cause it worked for me.
Hope this helped a bit.
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