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writes: I am very insucure and it is affecting my marriage. it has affected us so much that he sleeps in our sons room now how can i get this under control and get the trust back? i am so afraid that i am going to lose him that i end up pushing him away because i am afraid of getting hurt.we have been married for 11 months now and very afraid that i won't make it to a year in a few weeksplease help me Reply to this Question
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you need to just put yourself out there. you'll feel scared and vunerable but you just have to let go. if he's really the right 1 for you, it'll be worth it. explain to him how you feel and more importantly try to explain why. Its very fustrating and heart breaking for your partner to be pushed away like this, try to let him help you. Councilling is something worth thinking about so you can come to terms with your insecurities and move on from them. whether or not this relationship comes to an end, YOU need to find away to deal with your insecurities or you'll never be able to find true happiness. i wish you the best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): i know exactly how you feel and its hell! i found talking about it really helps, gets things out your system a little. the only thing you can really do is decide whether he's worth putting yourself out ther 4 him. let yourself be exposed and vunerable & just hope he wont let you down. just make sure your husband understands how you feel and if you can explain why you feel that way, im sure he'll do all he can 2 help you. remember that its fustrating and heart breaking for him to wen your pushing him away. good luck i hope you can take that very big step and make things work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2006): Have you ever had some individual counselling to help you address with why you feel so insecure (childhood related, abandoment issues as well as not feeling good enough) and how to deal with them and work towards overcoming them?
Have you been diagnosed with a personality disorder?
Keep a picture of him and your son with you. When you feel panicky or insecure, take it out and think of all the good times you have had. Write a letter to yourself reminding you of all the things he does for you that shows his love and commmitment to you. Take it out and read it. Ask hubby to write you a love letter every two weeks so you can carry that as well.
Still seek some individual counselling.
*hugs*
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