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writes:I have been married for 6 years with one child. My husband and I have been sexless for months. If we complete the act, it will be months before it happens again. I get upset with my husband for his lack of interest. Yet, when he attempts to engage in sex, it feels pushed and unnatural. I don't feel very attracted to him and find myself fantasizing about other men. I want to remain in my marriage, because we get along very well and I do love him immensely. I feel that if this continues, I may stray or my marriage will end. I am in agony. Thanks, Judy
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reader, aunty chrissie  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 i want to put my arms around you and say never mind it will be ok. daft really but im a softy. think back to when this first started and try to see a reason why. can you both talk to each other deeply, because its needed by the sound of it. lifes a shit really excuse the expression, because when two people get together its usually fantastic, sex anywhere, kissing constantly, totally in love and forever we think. unfortunatly it doesnt always work like that. but you sound as though you love him loads and dont want to give up. talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel, because it will get worse, bring in a third party it may be easier for you both, or get a friend to talk to him, i hope you find the answer
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (12 June 2008):
 If your husband is willing, I would recommend that you both get some kind of couples therapy. I think that there might be an hidden issue that's effecting his drive. It could be mentally related -- examples like excessive stress from work or elsewhere, depression, etc. ...or physiologically oriented: a physical issue like high blood pressure, a lack or depreciated testosterone levels. So, in short, you need to figure out what the story is here. The key part here is figuring out what the issue is and face it together and find a solution. Please don't let this go and ignore it. If you're seriously concerned about saving your relationship, then you need to act... together!
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