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writes:my husband has no interest in sex at all and i want it,he says he doesnt no why he isnt interested but im getting fed up and its spoiling our marraigewhat shall we do Reply to this Question
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reader, sheela  +, writes (13 April 2009):
Dearest friend,If he was always like this, and i am sure u tried everything (dressing up, preparing meals, flattering him, requesting him, arguing, accusing, fighting, having a matured discussion about your needs etc) but has not changed his behaviour. Have u tried all this method???? Was he always same(0% to 30% int)?JUST LEAVE HIM, IT WONT CHANGE MUCH WHAT EVER YOU DO. BUT IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN THEN YOU HAVE TO BE IN THE RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF YOUR CHILDREN. IF he is having medical condition depression or reaction to pills etc. THEN U NEED to see doctor. No children ,no medical condition, no social fear LEAVE HIM AND SAVE YOURSELF. SORRY FOR SAYING THAT. BUT I AM IN YOUR CONDITION AND I CANT LEAVE BECAUSE I HAVE CHILDREN.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (12 April 2007):
 You need to talk to himand get this sorted. It's 2007, it's not just men who need sex! Making love is a important and special part of most relationships and marriages and, if you want it, then you have to sort this out and fact!
You need to find out why he doesn't want it. My experience has been that, when men are uninterested, nothing you wear/say/do etc will help, it's something inside them that is making themselves become distant from affection. You need to find out what this is.
It could just be some minor stress or something on his mind, or it could be more. Whatever it is, you need to know so you can start to work through it together. I can understand how you feel: it makes you feel rejected and unwanted and like there's nothing physical left in the relationship.
It's going to take hard work on both your parts to sort this: he's going to have to open up to you and let you know how he's feeling and you're going to have to be prepared to take whatever comes with that. I'm sure you can work through this with the right communication and maybe seek some counselling together or apart if needs be.
I can only hope he is willing to try and sort this but, if he is not, I think you know that this cannot work. Good luck, give it time, I think things will work out.
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (12 April 2007):
 dress up sexy for him, give it all a bit of spice, grab his attention with some hot new sexy underwear! ask him what you can do to turn him on. but if that doesnt work then id have a serious talk with him and tell him its ruining your marriage and you cant go on with no sex.
hope this helps x
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