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*roghunter70
writes:My husband and I have been together for almost 4 years now, and we're young he's 21 and ill soon be 21, we have a 14month old daughter and it seems like his interest in me has gone comepletly out the window. I've tried everything I could think of and all he seems to want now is porn. He charged up our cable bill renting it he has 10-12 dvds and he also downloads it to his phone. But the problem is, is I could be in the room right next to him and he would rather have the porn then the real thing. And when ever I want to have sex he just shruggs me off and says he doesn't want to. Or he'll complain that I want it to much, so I back off then he complains that I don't want him enough. What can I do to make him want to be with me instead of his porn?
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reader, devastated housewife +, writes (30 July 2010):
well i'm sorry to hear that. my husband is a hard one to read too. it sucks having to try to be all controlling and pay attention to every little detail of what they do to see if he's lying. it makes me not like myself very much.
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reader, froghunter70 +, writes (22 July 2010):
froghunter70 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh yes plenty of times. Ans he still doent seem to stop like he would for a while the he'll start up again thinking I won't find out. Its ridiculous im tired of it. I know there's plenty of guys out there I have several at the moment begging me to leave him cuz its not right and they want me happy
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reader, devastated housewife +, writes (20 July 2010):
that sucks. anytime a man doesn't care weather or not he's hurting you by watching porn it's not ok. i'm in the middle of a on off battle with my husband because of this sh-t. i don't know what the hell they are thinking but i've gotta believe that somewhere out there is a guy who would save not only his body but his eyes only for me. i told my husband that next time anything like that happens i'm leaving and i mean it. now its just a waiting game for me to see if i will have to end it. have u tried threatening to leave him?
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reader, froghunter70 +, writes (6 July 2010):
froghunter70 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe uses it several times a day, and I have told him I wouldn't mind him watching it as long as he would still come on to me, but that has yet to happed. He literatly chooses porn over me. Every time I come on to him he says he's not in the "mood" and by that he means he's already got his fixens with his hand. And the only time he seems interesed in me is when I'm on my period when he knows we can't do anything to serious. And he uses it as an excuse saying well if it wernt for ur period we could have sex. And id say to him well then let's go get in the shower and he would say something like oh I already took a shower today or something like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): how often would he watch it? You say the problem is how much he uses it.. Would you be ok with him looking if he still wanted you? If he cut down on the use? Does he do anything with you now or does he just say he's not interested etc? Sorry for all the questions just trying to get a better idea of the situation
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reader, froghunter70 +, writes (6 July 2010):
froghunter70 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLike I've said I've tried it. I even when as far as letting him tape me giving him head, just so he would watch that instead. But he still would rather watch the porn. It dumbfounds me how much he does it. I just don't know what to do anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): thats tough. I know my fiance watches it, but only when im not home, and he still wants stuff with me most days. Perhaps your hubby is addicted? I dont really know what the signs of addiction would be but it certainly doesnt seem normal that he'd choose porn and not want you. Have you tried dressing up for him? Or perhaps next time he's in the room watching porn, go in naked or in a sexy costume and simply 'help' Dont push for anything in return, but see how he responds. Perhaps it'll just take remembering how much better it is with the real thing to kick start his interest again. Hope it helps. Good luck
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