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writes:my husband and i have been married for 24 years. we have had our share of arguing and fighting. in the past 3 years we have started riding motorcycles and hanging out with our friends and this usually involves a couple of drinks, sometimes more. long story short is now and then my husband will get mad over the most trivial things. we'll be on our way home from the bar on the bikes and he'll take off and leave me, then he doesnt speak for days, right now we're on day 5. when i try to talk to him he says i just want to start an argument. i get really tired of trying to initiate the making up. things are starting to cool down now and he acts like he kind of wants to start talking, and this is when i usually become weak and forgive him until the next time. i need advice on what to say to him to make a believer out of him, that i'm not going to tolerate this behavior any longer. i dont want a divorce....any advice out there?
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reader, kelly kiloe  +, writes (26 May 2010):
"My husband will get angry over the most trivial things, then won't speak to me for days!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): fuck off tosser! is what u should say, but we all know it is not easy if u love him. BUT have no doubt he is wrong not you..don't ever beg for his forgiveness and his silence & sulking is passive abuse. he has the problem NOT YOU.
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reader, donna6353 +, writes (21 August 2008):
donna6353 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell guys I did it........Last night I went in the bedroom and told my husband that it was obvious he was not going to try and make ammends, so I had a letter I wanted him to read. A letter may seem lame, but it's the only way I can really express my feelings whole heartedly. I put alot of thought into this letter and in short just told him how I felt about everything, and that something had to be done. I ask him if he had any suggestions, because I thought 25 years was worth trying to save. And I even suggested marriage counceling. Once again I was devestated at his response. Now he tells me that the argument we had on saturday wasnt really about what we argued about, but the fact that I couldn't do exactly what he wanted me to do for once. He said he is sick and tired of bending over backwards for me. Said he even got medicated for me, which he did and he truly needed it, he likes it hisself. And then proceeded to tell me he was washing his hands of the whole situation. Of course I'm crying, because I'm so, so hurt. I did tell him that if Divorce was what he wanted then he would have to file, because I wasnt going to. I did not have a good night. Donna
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): To be honest unless you know of anything deep rooted in his mind,know any reasons why he is like he is,then you will either have to suffer it or get out.
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reader, heretohelp-kirsty  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 well to be honest he seems quite pathetic. Im not married but if i had a husband like that i would know what you were talking about . You be be very frustrated about how he is so childish about the issues . But you need to sit him down and make him listen . Maybe something like 'i cant take this any longer' at the start then that will scare him . He wouldnt want to loose you over a stupid row after a good night out at the club with your friends. If you bring him back down to earth he'l probably understand . Just dont be the one running to him but then dont be as bad as him by avoiding talking and ignoring him . Because this can lead serious and could lead to a break up if this carries on .good luck . let me know what happens . kirsty . x
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