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writes:is it a smart move to leave the country to move on from heartbreak and just start life with another country? and is it okay to still make friends to him afterall the lies he had caused me?please advice me
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reader, EvieA +, writes (27 August 2008):
 Never ever run away from your problemsNo matter where you go they are always with you.You have to face them, and try and get over this guy, see how it goes Hope this helps xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): You can't hide or run from your problems. Be an adult and face whatever is bothering you so you can get on with your life. Then move to a different country if you want.
God Bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): pweaseeeee girl stay where u at dont worry about him. i mean ive been through a lot and yeah it hurts but juss dont think about it thats waht i did hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): Moving to another country will not help you at all.You'd be
running away from the situation.We all have good and bad times,and we have to accept that,no matter how bad it is or
how much we don't like the situation.And yes,it is ok to be
friends with him.Just don't let it go farther than that if
you don't want another heartbreak.wish you the best.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): In my experience, from mostly watching how other people run away from their problems, I would say no. Your thoughts will always catch up with you, no matter how far away you move. The only way to get over a heartbreak is with time and eventual acceptance of what happened. By moving countries you are just avoiding the inevitable - the fact that you have been hurt and lost a love.
Maybe friendship can come in the future, but it is not something you should think about right now. You obviously still love this guy and by trying to be his friend, you will just end up hurting yourself further.
If you really feel you need to get away to another country, then go for it, but do not expect it to be a miracle cure. It might help though for you to have some "you" time where you can concentrate on yourself but more importantly try and take each day as it comes.
You will not always feel as bad as you do, one day you will get over the heartbreak, and, eventually, you will become a far stronger person because of it.
Failed relationships make us stronger in the end, and it makes us see who is right for us, and who isn't. You will get through the other side, but until then, take care.
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reader, heretohelp-kirsty  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 i dont think you should move away as that will probably make you think more at what is back at home . Maybe a short break away with busy activites will take your mind off him more , and it is better if you stay friends with an ex espeically if you will see him often . its worse if your enemies . Most of my ex's are very close friends now . But dont be the best of friends straight off because you'l realise how much you got on as a couple in the good times in your relationship. good luck . kirsty . x
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (20 August 2008):
 moving country wont change how you will feel just different place.. it seems you need to deal with your problems and not run from them because they will catch up with you..but if you want to move do it but beaware of the consequences..you can still be friends with him if you like but give yourself some time from him and focus on yourself.. go out with other friends and do some fun things their is bound to be lots of hobbies or cinemas or things like that to do..this has happened you cannot turn back the clocks but deal with it head on.. hope that helps good luck aphex xx
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