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writes:My husband recently went for a dinner with his supplier who met him at office for business purpose. I saw his mails and found they went out for a cozy dinner. He hid it from me. I asked him he said just a friend. What should I do after this. I worry they will continue their relationship since she separated from her husband. Pls guide me.Rinnie Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): I am in the business industry; I have been for the last 30 years; going for lunch or dinner with guys, no matter what the setting ....in my mind there is one thing "BUSINESS"; sure, I cannot speak for all girls but I can tell you from personal experience; that sometimes the guys will come over a little flirty or strong; other times they are very non challant; a lot depends on the women and her motives and goals; to me it was always strictly business and yes, the flirting etc was great fun, but nothing more because I knew there was a hidden agenda, being ...BUSINESS;I suggest: You stop being insecure about yourself; Yes I know this sounds harsh; but with this kind of behaviour you will drive your husband into her arms or the arms of somebody else;NO NO.. relax; take stock; stop worrying about her or whomever else; he is your husband; start treating him as the "king" of your castle; make him feel loved and important; stop stressing and nagging about this person, because the more you do; you will just send him to her;NO , no, make life so comfortable and happy at home; get rid of your own insecurities, start being positive about yourself and your marriage; treat him and spoil him; surprise him with lots of fun things;come on...put the "Spice" back...and stop stressing aabout what can or could.....he is still yours..."grab" him with both hands....and VOW...him!Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): Yeah, as eddie said, what does cozy mean? Do you mean a nice restaurant with soft lighting? Well, that's the type of place that suppliers sometimes take clients. Most higher rated good restaurants are cozy by that deffinition. I see no problem with what happened. However, I do see a problem with him lieing to you. I have no idea why he would lie. Did he really lie or did he just not tell you? Perhaps he didn't tell you because he thought you would be upset. After all, it was a business dinner.
I used to have business dinners with a good looking single woman many years ago. I worked for the supplier to her company. A lot of our talk at dinner would be technical talk. Other talk was personal and common interest stuff. There was never anything sexual about it. It was a business requirement. Sure it was nice to go to dinner with an attractive woman, but it was all business.
My wife used to go to lunches to a "cozy" restaurant with men. It never bothered me. I don't even know if it was with just one man or several. I don't remember ever asking. I also used to go to lunches with some women friends at work and to dinner one time with a very attractive friend to a "cozy" restaurant. Nothing sexual ever happened. The most that ever happened was to make a comment on how attractive she looked. It made her feel good and we talked about our lives in general and some about work.
I'm not saying that things don't happen sometimes. I'm just saying not to get all worried about something that you have no reason to be concerned about at this point.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (7 September 2008):
 What does "cozy" mean to you Are you just attaching that connotation to it? How did he hide it from you? Is it possible he just didn't mention it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): i think you need to confront him....he shouldnt be hiding things from you....you need to be calm about it and really talk about the problem and tell him how you feel tell him how it bothers you and why...if he loves you he should listen....if he still is being strange about the whole thing you might want to really worry....maybe if it goes on for a while like him meeting up for "cozy dinners" you might want to consider a private investigator....then you would really know
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