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writes:about a year ago i found that my husband to be, was sex texting his ex. i almost left him, but we just had a baby and i really love him (typical). he has been proving to me all year how devoted he is to the family. we r a family of 5. 2 other children from another marriage. i appreciate and respect him for everything. sex is still fun, we have a good time with each other, but in the back of my head i cant trust him and i still spy on his phone, emails, facebook.... it sucks to feel this way. can i get over it, numb to it... or does time heal? just to throw it in, im outgoing, fun, beautiful( for having 3 kids, lol), an intellectual who is educated , and lots of street smart too. naturally my soul is faithful to one and and true to heart. thanks for the advice!!
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reader, natasia  +, writes (19 January 2012):
 I think that if he has been making the effort to prove himself to you, and you have a great time together, and a great family, then don't give a stuff where or who he texts - just drop it. It doesn't matter. What matters is you and him together, and that he makes the effort.
Some men don't, and that is REALLY shit. But yours does - so try to let go of the things not worth worrying about, and let yourself appreciate and enjoy your lovely guy. Because he is yours, no doubt.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 January 2012):
 You sound like a great person, and yes if he married you I am sure that he loves you and wants to be with you. You say you have been checking up on him since and I guess that you have not found anything which probably does mean that he is being faithful to you, which is great. However, the past cannot be erased no matter how hard that you try to do it. Off course you are going to have trust issues, because he broke your trust. He needs to earn it back. Sometimes when it is broken it can be gone forever. But you made a choice to carry on and marry him anyway knowing this, so I guess you just need to tell him how you feel so that you can both work on getting the trust back. Yes it was a hard thing you went through and off course it takes time, but you need to keep communicating with him as well, being open and honest and tell him you are struggling. Good luck.
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