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writes:Hello there.My husband told me last night that he'd known since lockdown in March 2020 he wanted to move to America.He said he'd wanted to move there for a long time now, and is well-educated enough to qualify for a visa. He'd known since July 2007.We have kids aged 8 and 11.He told me how he was fed up with the UK due to its political system, unfriendly people, hatred towards car-owners, anti-obesity and anti-intellectualism, woke culture, and that America wasn't as bad as people made out; he said it wasn't the racist hellhole the media portrays it as, and he'd been negotiating with an employer over there who really wants him.My husband told me that it's just the media fed up with Americans and they peddle lies and misinformation about it.FWIW, he has American expat friends where we live.While he can get a job there, I can't; I work as a checkout assistant for now, it's the only job I could get.I think he's not seeing things clearly and it's caused big arguments between us.He told me that he thinks we could move to America, come back over to see family for Christmas, once he's got through visas etc. and has his Green Card but isn't, IIRC, that against the rules of the green card while it's still new?I'm wondering if he's so enamoured with living there he hasn't seen what it'd be like in reality with day-to-day things such as shopping, taxes, food and drink, friends etc.He doesn't want to hang out with other Brits there, just locals in wherever we move to.Currently he's negotiating with a firm in Texas about getting the visa to move there, they're interested.I'm concerned as a mum because how this'll affect the kids; also, won't they grow up with American accents and behaviours as they get older?My husband told me he was always against the EU and hated our country being in the EU, said being a US citizen has more benefits than an EU one, and that Americans are loved the world over (he wants American citizenship after 5-6 years when he can get it then).Don't get me wrong, he's spent hours and hours, weeks and weeks doing the research.I'm worried about the emotional and financial side of things. It's likely he'll get the job, at least based on what he's shown me from emails, but with covid etc. will they really be hiring him?He seems to know all the stuff on visas etc.I always thought America was expensive to live in, but am I wrong?My husband told me he's had this deepseated love for American culture and people since July 2007 and the novelty never went away, he said he felt more at home there than here.I am worried about it, but equally, I'm probably gonna have to accept it too; I'm worried about the logistics and emotional side more than him.My husband also claims "America's slightly more stable than Britain as it doesn't have to have a relationship with the EU and it can't be dictated to by them, plus culturally, we're closer to Americans than Europeans. Also, the EU isn't as good as the US Government. Look at how the US do many things better than the EU" but how true is that?He hated our Ibiza holiday 4 years ago, and didn't like visiting Italy in 2016 either, said he longed for LA or NYC.FWIW, my husband prefers American shows to British ones, seems to have given up on BBC News for things like CNN etc.I have a lot of concerns and while the general consensus is I'll go if I can move there, I'm still having some concerns.I wouldn't mind moving if, and that's a big if, there's a lot of positives and not many negatives.Any advice on things?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2022): I think this question is on the wrong site to be honest which is why the lack of replies.
Maybe post it on Brit Expats or a Facebook page for expats in the US.
The reason I say this is because you need to conduct research and form your own opinion, there is no moral right or wrong here. You just need to research and make sure you have all bases covered etc.
Not many (if any) of the people on here will have enough experience of this to be able to advise.
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