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writes:My husband wants to have anal sex with me.We have never done it before,and I'd like some advice on how to go about.I'm a little bit scared about,is it safe or healthy for my body if he cums on my back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): anal sex is very pleasurable for the female. it does hurt initially but as you go along it becomes better. use lots of lube and try to be comfortable. no nervousness. stay calm. yes, i believe it is safe and healthy. bottom line - both you and hubby will enjoy , there is no need to be alarmed. and within a short space of time, you may also enjoy it so much that you initiatve it .
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): Anal sex should be safe so long as both of you follow some basic rules. First, you (not he) is in control when you're having anal. His job is to be erect and stay still. Your job is to relax and guide the motion of your body such that his penis will penetrate your anus.To acomplish this, you'll need to practice relaxing your bum to allow it to accept his penis. Start by using a finger (your finger) in a warm bath. Gently penetrate yourself and get used to having something inside your bum.Next, in bed, and with a lot of lube, continue the finger play until you can accept 2 of your fingers. After that, invite him to use his fingers to accomplish the same thing. The goal here is to be able to work them into your bum, not so much to trust in and out. Once you've relaxed enough some movement to simulate intercourse is fine, but take it in steps.When you're confortable in being able to have two fingers gently move in and out, you can try anal intercourse. He should wear a condom as it will make his penis smoother and allow him to penetrate you easyer. He should work one very well lubricated finger into your ass, working a generous amount of lube into your bowels. Cover his penis in lubricant and have him place some on your anus. He should place the head of his penis on the ntrance and you should begin to try to relax and gently push into him. You'll need to push out slightly, as if you were trying to take a bowel movement. He should slide into you a bit, continue until you feel discomfort (STOP if there's pain!), relax and keep going. When he's all the way in, stop and take some deep breaths (rememer to keep BREATHING the entire time!). Once your ready, he can start gently thrusting.You should get pleasure from this, and may experience a very strong ograsm if he can rub your g-stop through the vaginal wall.When he's ready to cum, he can cum inside you and then slowly (very slowly) pull out, or better, be still and allow you to pull off him.You'll likely be spent and need to relax, he should gently wipe your backside (and himself) with a damp warm wash cloth! A little pampering at this time is nice and the LEAST he can do for you!Take it slow, and you should both enjoy it!
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (18 October 2009):
 Think about using a condom for his health?
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reader, pyan  +, writes (18 October 2009):
hi
i allways wanted my wife too and she was unsure we found when the time is right and you are both hornie let him lub you up and you will enjoy. now when my wife wantd to take control she sets it up. lets us know how you go but make sure you are relaxed
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reader, Justified +, writes (18 October 2009):
 Hey sweetie I do not mean to scare you but you will be nervous at first. The first thing you need to do is relax. Make sure he uses some lub. Then he should stick one finger in until you are comfortable then a second finger to open you up some more. WARNING your going to feel like you have to take a shit and that is normal. After you feel comfortable then he should know what to do. The main thing is to be calm because if not it would not feel right. When I first started I played some music and sang to relax the musucles. It may sound stupid but it worked for me.
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