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writes:Tonight my husband said to me he wanted a divorce. I felt shocked when he said it, as our relationship's been good in the 7 years we've been together (we've been married for 5 weeks now!)I asked him why, and he said, there's no-one else involved, it's just he'd rather go back to being "my bloke" than a husband.He said we'd be better as boyfriend/girlfriend than husband and wife, and that he does love me, in case I was doubting him.I feel upset by this whole thing, I can't understand why a guy would do this to the woman he loves.He's a lovely guy in many ways, and I love him, but I find this whole situation a bit strange, and can't understand why he wants to do it, as he won't say why.How should I deal with it? from Michelle
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): Yes, it is bizzare! Maybe he just doesn't want the responsibility of being a husband. But why wouldn't he have thought about that before the marriage? Something strange is going on! My heart goes out to you! But as others have said...why would you want to stay with him? It'll only get worse as time goes on. Unless you do consider counseling. Make the suggestion and see what his reaction is. If he refuses...then, it's not just being married he wants out of...it's the relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): Yes, there's definetly something he's not telling you...probably so he won't hurt your feelings even more. I'm sorry, but this would be a deal breaker for me. If there's anyway you can 'get out of him' what's really going on in his mind, there might be a slight hope to save the marriage. Sometimes a guy is not brave enough to confront his wife on problems, and will take the easy way out.
But do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone like him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): "My bloke" does indeed mean my boyfriend, in British slang.
I've tried reasoning with my husband, but he won't relent.
I find the whole thing odd, bizarre and puzzling - wouldn't you agree?
Chelle aka Michelle
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