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writes: Hi,I am married for last 9 years and has a kid(aged 8). I am a busy executive(works close to 12 hrs @ times) and heads home staright after work.For past 1 month, I am seeing my hubby spending very less time at home, with me and my son. He loves to either go out with his freinds or ends up in some games...no hints of my displeasure is helping. how to get life back on track.Simply my love life is in a jeopardy.xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2006): Excuse me honey, but I think it's a little rich for you to complain about your husband when YOU spend 12 hours at the office daily.
My wife is a partner at an international accounting firm. I am a professional engineer. We are both VERY career oriented and we have a seven year old daughter. So I know what I speak of when I comment on your situation.
You've been given a pretty lenient ride by the previous responders. Have you considered that your husband's behaviour results from being frustrated by your absence? Have you considered that TWO committed people are a necessary condition for a marriage to work, and that it takes only a few neglectful acts to destroy it?
If you want to save your marriage, then stop lobbing the "hints of [your] displeasure" at your husband (which by your own admission are not working) and start getting to the heart of the matter. Both of you are neglecting your marriage and need to reconnect. If you two cannot remember the last time you had a date with your husband, then it's time to schedule regular date nights.
No marriage is perfect and times will come that neglect sets in. It is up to both people to acknowledge these times and correct the situation. That is how a marriage stands the test of time. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Toria +, writes (29 September 2006):
 Talk to him and tell him how you are feeling and the situation you are noticing.
Sometimes we get caught up in work, friends and our social life we don't even notice the affect these things have on our home/personal life.
Good luck :o)
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