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writes: Hi, Im in a proper mess, im desperatly in love with my friend and he knows this, and I dont expect him to be in love with me back. It just no matter how much I tell him (in a text) he never comments, never runs a mile and well its destroying me now. Im so down and fed up because I just want some sort of response from him now, even if he told me he doesnt ever see me as a potential girlfriend then I could deal with things except he keeps giving me misleading signals, even my friends have commented on the signals he keeps giving me. People tell me to distance myself from him but I cant do it, its really hard to distance yourself from somebody you think the world of. Yesterday it got to much and I broke down in front of him, I explained that I was struggling to deal with my feelings for him, he just sat and listened and made no comment apart from "but im still here". Then he kept hugging me and telling me not to be silly. I really dont know what to do anymore.
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 I'm torn between the fact that he doesn't feel the same way but doesn't want to lose your friendship therefore causing the mixed signals or whether he does feel the same way and is scared of something causing the mixed signals only one way to find out is to confront him and get him to tell you what he is thinking and feeling, tell him until you know whats going on in his head you can't get over the way you feel and move on from it.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Keeley +, writes (25 September 2006):
 I agree with Shania sorry babe, I had a similiar experience and it is not fun in your chair right now, but you need to break free of your feelings cos a one sided love affair is not good. Your hurting right now and it will take some time but you will get there one day, this may not be what you want to hear right now but the longer you dwell on the impossible the worse you suffer.
Good luck and hugs to you right now
Keeley :-)
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reader, shania  +, writes (25 September 2006):
 You need to stay away from him because the more you keep seeing him the worse it will be for you.If this guy really wanted you then he would of done something by now..and you know that.You will have to keep your distance from him by keeping busy.Go out with your friends...start a new interest,just keep yourself occupied.I know you will find it hard but what is the alternative? You crying and breaking down in front of him? Its not doing you any good,is it?..One day you will look back at this and you will wonder what you ever saw in him,trust me,with all been there.
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