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writes:Ever since I can remember I've wanted bigger size breasts (I'm a small 34B). I know that my husband has a thing for women with large breasts, though (like most guys). Then tonight he says to me "I love you more than I would even love anyone with bigger breasts." I took this to mean "even though you're ugly, I still love you." It just really hurt when he said that. (He has in the past even compared my chest to my cousin's (who is a 34D). I told him that hurt my feelings and he said it shouldn't because he loves ME. Well, just because he loves me doesn't mean that he can compare me to people who have bigger breasts like I want without hurting my feelings!)When he told me that, I said "that's like me saying, 'I still love you even though you're fat." He said that they weren't the same at all. I tried to tell him how they were similar and said that his reaction is more or less what I probably felt. He said it wasn't!I don't know. I just feel hurt that he said that. Like I'm ugly, but he can deal with it. Am I wrong for thinking this? He kept trying to tell me that he meant girls with big boobs meant nothing to him, but then why would he even bring it up? I'm so upset. Maybe I'm just overreacting because I'm really sensitive about my breast size...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2006): I have naturally large breasts, and I hate them with a passion, I would go completely flat if I could :( ... It is awful when your breasts makes you feel like you are ugly (I know!) If your husband say things that upset you just tell him it makes you feel unhappy I guess. I know my husband looks at woman with smaller breasts and openly drool over it, and I know how much that hurt, and yes its breasts that (most of the time) is covered up and can't be seen but it does make you feel ugly! Just talk to him, and tell him to keep his thoughts to himself, or you can find someone that satisfy you better, emotionally and physically!! ~ that'll shut him up. :(
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reader, I Waited For The One  +, writes (16 December 2006):
 why do women always say " tit's size " is mega important to us guy's ... most guy's like myself couldn't give a fuck if u was flat chested. big boobed. show us love and it doesn't matter if u have no tit's. we will love you. your husband sound's like an asshole no offence but u need 2 say " love me for what i am or i will find someone who will " there are load's of guy's who wouldn't care if u had 34b or 34d love u for what you are. he married u who u r so he souldn't compare you 2 no 1 else.
that's what i think anyway.z
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reader, eddie  +, writes (16 December 2006):
 Your husband said he loves "you". He might really have a thing for big boobs too. But, he married you so who cares? What does that tell you? He chose you over boobs. I find certain ethnic women very attractive, that won't change. So what? I have some crooked teeth on the bottom. Ultimately, my wife might think I'd look better with straight teeth. Of course I would. But, they're not that bad and they were crooked when she met me too. It sounds like the breast thing is touchy for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): I don't think you're overreacting, I think he's being unsensitive. I believe he really loves you, but it's time for him to understand what he's doing. Don't let him tell you that's it's just in your head because it's not. I'm sure he's not a Brad Pitt/George Clooney himself but you don't keep telling him that there other men out there more attractive than him, do you?
Of course love is not base on looks but we all want to feel attractive to the one we love, uh? Tell him to zip it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): You wonder why he brought it up right? maybe becuase he knows you're sensitive about it (don't worry i am 2 and i have 1 32a so you got more than me honey) and he is saying that he doesn't care about Pamela Anderson size boobs becuase he'd rather have you, i'm going to assume this is his way of saying "i love you for what you've got and who you are and trying and i don't want you to feel down becuase you have less than others"
also a key thing to think about is: models they have tiny boobies and the you should take note how the clothes actually look better on near flat chested women than women with a great lot. also small breasts = no back pain and have you ever spoken to women with really large natural breasts most of them hate it and complain becuase men don't take them so seriously.
you're guy is with you for a reason, he's trying to make you feel better and you shouldn't feel like shit, i'd rather have "a" size boobs over "dd" or even a "c" anyday!
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