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writes:Ok Got A Question For The Ladies (sorry guy's) u can still answer if u can help.let's say your in a r-ship where u fight every day and cry (ever other day) your unhappy. and your boyfriend say's he's kind of unhappy because the sex between you is not enough because he doesn't have a job and u work 39 hr's a week. what would u do 2 sort these fight's u always have?all your mate's are saying " leave him for a week or so and see if that helps " a) sit down and talk 2 your partner?b) tell him you have gone off r-ship's and move all your rubbish out of is house and move in with your broter?c) end it there and then?u see my girl as moved out on me and i think she's takeing a big break like 6 month's 2 see what happen's she told me it's easy 4 her 2 be on her own if she only as 2 think for herself? what does that mean?can women go for month's without sex? or do u think she may find herself a new sex partner but never tell me? she told me we can still be friend's and when she want's a r-ship she will think about giveing me a 2nd chance do u think she will? or do u think she's just trying to be nice so i don't nag her 2 death?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2006): well being a female! i can say it all depends on the individual on how long they can go with out sex. i personally can go without sex but my boyfriend can't he nags me sometimes and yeah it worrys me he same as your feeling at the minute.. all i can say is talk to her face to face you will get the most out of her that way. ask her straight what she wants out of your relationship? don't bug her about sex it always get on our nerves. me and my bf are in the sme situation i work 39 hours and he doesnt work at all. you can't just suspect or think shes found some1 else you need to ask!! tell her you don't want a break for that long or even a break at all..see what she says.. try this it works for me and my bf if we have any troubles. talking is the bestway to solve these things. you should find from talking that you will know where you stand with her and maybe make the decision for yourself that splitting is the best way to go. it would hurt if this was to happen (i hope it doesnt) but it would be the best in the long run..asking people on the internet does help sometimes and i know i do but you know this lady whereas we don't so we try to help but can't guarantee anything. as i say talk to her, discussing this should help the both of you really decide what is best. a short break of a month might help.. as every1 says "Absense makes the heart grow stronger" in the past i have realised this is true..i hope i have helped best of luck and i hope you and your g/f are happy and get things sortedx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): I know I am from a generation before texting became the form of commmunication that some young people prefer, but I am here to tell you that it is a very poor way of communicating with your partner....and does not a relationship make.
90% of human communication is through tone of voice and body language, and you don't have any of that in a short text message....I think you are mot ready for a real relationship and you have a lot of maturing to do, I think you should let this one go and try to learn from your mistakes...you just do not seem to get it....and I was using demanding sex when she walked in the door as an illustration, not a fact....try putting the remote control down, try not playing video games and listening to music or whatever it is you do besides sitting next to your girl and talking face to face about your day, your goals, your dreams, your issues, your desires and dreams and see if you don't have a deeper understanding of what a real relationship is all about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks lady's the answer's u give me was some good advice
u say am i in contact with this girl yes i am. i txted her about 10 time's the day she dumped me and i asked her the other day " u still want me 2 txt u everyday or do u want it tuned it down two 2 time's a week " she told me i can txt her everyday but i'm thinking y sould i have to start off the txting? so i'm going to txt her first today. and if she doesn't txt me tomoz then she doesn't get any txt from me till the next day. i think it's a good idea.
Rhyhmblues u was talking about guy's thinking sex can hold a r-ship together i'm 1 of them guy's i thought we was fighting alot because i wanted sex and she didn't half the time i didn't demand sex as soon as she walked throw the door i promise you that.
i just hope she give's me a call when she's ready for another r-ship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThey Girl's Thanks For The Answer's they seemed to help me a little.
she told me i can txt her everyday but not load's
i didn't txt her yeserday because i say i txt her 2 day if she doesn't txt me 2 moz i will txt her the day after but only 3-4 txt's every day only if she txt's me first on the day i think she's sould txt me first.
good idea i think it is. my brother told me 2 ignore her and try to get on with my life. but her family (all her family) know me and i'm hopeing to stay on good term's with them all. her neice & nephew i love them little kid's there kool. i hopeing 2 stay good friend's 2 her brother so i can c these kid's because i've got really close 2 them like they are my real neice & nephew.
we r going to keep talking to each over but only over a txt and i'm hopeing next year every saturday she will meet me down town 2 go catch up good idea?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): Let's say you are in a relationship with a guy who does not work, starts arguments over not spending enough time with you because you work and complains that you are not ready for sex the minute you walk in the door from work.
Let's say you are living with him without a marriage commitment and supporting him while he lays on the couch not looking for a job.
Let's say you have had enough of that lack of direction, lack of commitment and lack of understanding and caring and you move out, pack all of your stuff and live on your own....Let's say your ex believes that sex is the glue that holds a relationship together, let's say your ex does not get it, does not have a clue what holds a relationship together....Sex or or the lack of sex is not the driving force behind a woman's desire to have a partner in her life, but all that other stuff that was lacking or is not going right is....
How do you work out the problems, you leave her alone, give her some space and fix the problems within you that nailed the end of your relationship and then when you have changed you lst her know, you try to be a friend and build back the trust and see if she still wants to try again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): ok i'll answer these directly.
First my answer is C, end it there and then... ...never go back.
relationships are mean you are not thinking about yourself all thime and what you need to do but what is best for the relationship and your partner and putting their needs ahead of yours. being on your own means it's all me, me, me and for a lot of people that's a good thing, it means independence some people need the dependence of a partner.
some women want sex all the time some women can go a loooonnnnnnggggg time without sex. so this depends on the person themselves not just on women.
she may tell you if she has a new partner or she may not it depends on the relationship are you still in contact. when i broke up with a guy one time we were'nt talking really so the last thing i was gonna do was say to him and rub it in his face that i am over him and have found someone new - becuase that's what it's gonns feel like.
and lastly she may still have feelings for you but really needs a break from the arguing and to grab her bearings and by the sounds of it you need to do the same but clealr yshe doesn't want to loose contact. no one right now can say whether she will give you a 2nd chance or not, just give it time and try not to be so impatient.
relax go do some new things and don't nag her give her time and space but keep some contact - just not everyday contact.
Good luck
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