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writes: Should I be concerned if my husband of 27 years has been looking at shemale stuff behind my back for the past 2 years? We have only had sex 2 times in 2 years
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (10 December 2006):
 Well, shemale porn isn't TOO crazy. It's kinky, sure, but that in itself isn't too bad.
However, the fact that you have only had sex 2 times in 2 years suggests something completely different. Did you have a healthy sex life before that? Did something happen to you two years ago? Something really significant? You guys really need to look into this issue. Clearly, something is very wrong in your relationship. A marriage counseller can help, and so can sitting down and having an open and honest talk with each other about what's going on in your own lives.
It seems like something is going on with your husband. Maybe he has had a change in your sexuality. Or maybe he's missing something in his life. Maybe something significant happened to him two years ago...
It's time to figure out what's going on. Because something really is.
Good luck!
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reader, Nikita  +, writes (10 December 2006):
 Hi Jane,
I think you need to have a good talk with your husband. It seems to me that if you've only had sex twice in two years and he's looking at porn then you do have a problem that need s to be aired. its become a habit with him and the both of you have settled into this routine of non communication. You have to break out of this. Tell him you know he's been looking at this type of porn. Dont be accusing but just ask why he's looking at it and why you havent been intimate very much. Say you want things to change because you love him and are not happy with the way things are and you need more from him. 27 years is a long time and you dont want to throw it away. You need to find a way to communicate again and hopefully he wont need to look at the porn so much. As for the content of the porn. Different things turn different people on. It doesnt necessarily mean he wants to act on his fantasies but again, you have to discuss it with him to find out. Hope it all works out for you. Take care.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (10 December 2006):
 What worries me here is the communication aspect of this question. How do you know he is looking at shemale porn? have you had to 'spy' on him to find this out? How would you have felt if he had been up front about looking at it from a curiosity aspect? Has you man ever exhibited any other signs of being interested in other lifestyle choices?
You need to confront him about this. There is absolutely nothing you can do to help this situation unless you start to open lines of communication between you. He cannot know how you are feeling unless you tell him, and he cannot tell you why unless he knows you want to ask.
Please keep us updated and let us know how this goes when you have asked him the questions you need to ask.
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