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writes: I just cant get my ex out of my mind. I seem to spend so much time during the day thinking about him and when I wake he is the first thing I think about, and my heart just aches so much.It has been 4 weeks since I last saw him, and 3 months since we were together. I love him so much, and he doesnt know as Ive never told him. We are not together because he said he doesnt have enough time for a girlfriend and I was not willing to be just someone he sees occassionally. I feel that if he really wanted me he would make time. I think mainly it is because he is not over his ex girlfriend. He is a busy person, but he made time for me when we were first going out. I want him to be happy and have said to him that if its not me that is going to make him happy then thats just how it is, but got no real response. Have i given up too easily? I so desperately want to see him and tell him I love him. I just dont know what to do.
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reader, hendrix  +, writes (11 October 2010):
I know you love him very much but men are more so thinkers and women are emotional. Let me tell you how things are I feel you that is why? I well tell you the real deal about love. You can'i make a person love you. I don't care how much you love him. I know it hurts but there is nothing you can do right now. Ya, some people will tell you write him a letter tell him you love him or chase him down, text him. Honey, don't be no fool o.k. Common sense! He doesn't love you anymore, not at this point in time. As days goes by you will feel better and as months go by you'll even feel good. After a hear you'll think about him, but your heart will become num to the love you once had for him. We all have gone through "I love him" and the emotions of pain, the one and only love. But you'll get over him sooner then later. I want to tell you if you proceed in challenging your feelings for your ex, he'll just run from you and you'll look justlike a fool to him. While you build his ego up . Even worst he'll take your kindnes, and your love for weakness and he will use you for whatever he feels like using you for. Because he knows that you will fall for what ever he says. You don't want a relationship were a person is using like that do you? You love him, he hasn't made a move to see if you were all right or nothing. If a man loves you, he will show you he loves you and you don't have to wonder does he love or not. He'll be there for you! Am I right. You have alot of sense but love blinds the heart and the mind. Step out of your emotions for a minute and just look into reality for a second. Now think about this, say a guy loves you very much but you don't love him that way. Would you keep on going with this person you don't love. I hope you would say no. Ff you try and make him love you he isn't going to feel you and he just might show off another girl in front of you. And I think you really don't want to see or go through that, do you. Some, men can just walk away from love as if you or him had never met before. But you know that you two had a relationship. He doesn't care anymore about you. Sometimes some men can be very cold. You're a smart girl learn from this and never let someone make a fool out of you. The fact is if a person loves you he would be there with you, no more excuses about if that or does he feel that, or wondering about where his at, who his with, and does he love you the point has been stated. If you does come back don't you say a word let him do all the talking and you'll find out right then and there if his reasons are for the best or full of ****. I'm not saying to go find a replacement either take time out for you o.k. There will be that special someone that will enter your life and love you. He will be strong enough man to knock that other person right out in left field and puff he has disappeared, out of your heart and your mind. I say this, to give you knowledge, not to hurt your feelings. Never belittle yourself for a no-body. Be strong in the lord and he will see you through, and make sure you are alright. Be strong and restain from being a fool to your ex. His just fine, his doing what he wants to do. So don't worry about him. His not worry about you period. I know you might get angry reading this but somebody need to stir you up. Just don't be no fool! Be Young, Do You And Be Happy!******
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (10 December 2006):
 Write him a letter and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't reply you have your answer and must move on. Give him a time frame to answer by, say two weeks and then if he does not then you know you have to get your life back on track and forget about him. It can be done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006): go for it. better to sayit then regret it when time really does not allow you to. who knows how the results will turn out to be? at least you've done something about it and you can rest at ease of knowing that you've done your part no matter what may happen. also it depends on his feelings for you. maybe he's putting aside the relationship because he doesnt want to hurt you by making you wait or something. have a talk with him. best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006): just tell him. or you wont be able to stop thinking "what is i told him?"
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