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writes:Hello peopleI suffer from anxiety and OCD. In the last 2 years, I found out my girlfriend was cheating, I dropped out of college, changed 2 jobs and currently unemployed. I spend most of my time in my room. My thoughts drive me crazy. I've tried behavioral therapy and meds but nothing seems to have worked. I no longer have a positive outlook on life and I am just existing. I've lost the hunger to achieve something with my life like I did when I was a kid. I don't feel saddness or pain or love or happiness... Just this plain emptiness. I sometimes think I am wasting away my talents. I was a good student and was part of the soccer team but I don't feel motivated to pursue anything anymore. Has anyone ever bounced back from something like this? How did you do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2016): I'm sorry that you're going through this. You know what would make a huge difference to your mental state?Physical activity. Go out every single day - force yourself if you have to, but get out of the house. Go for a short jog - start small and increase the duration gradually. Start playing a sport, go join a club.Bathe every day - twice a day, once in the morning as you begin your day. Once in the evening. Water is great at relaxing your nerves and washes away a lot of negativity. Drink a lot of water. Eat regularly and eat healthy.Very importantly, once you start feeling changes (which physical activity will undoubtedly contribute to) start applying for jobs. Any job - just give it your all and stick to it for a good amount of time. Your flitting from job to job, dropping out of school and lack of physical activity by being cooped up in a single room all together have contributed to the stagnation and emptiness you feel. Jumping from job to job or even relationship to relationship, or even house to house - all of these contribute negatively to stability. I'm not saying that everyone who does these things are unstable, BUT if you are already in a fragile state of mind, such jumping around will only contribute to your heightened state of instability and restlessness.Finally, you could also think of therapy. You would be able to work out all the emotions you've gone through with the events of the past two years and a therapist would be a good way to get it out of your system. To recap: -- Exercise/jog/play sports (leave the room) - increase duration gradually.-- Bathe regularly and drink a lot of water. Eat regulary + healthy.-- Apply for a job. Stick to it.-- See a therapist.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (4 November 2016):
What do people do when the are depressed?...Nothing. If you sit around doing nothing for to long, how does that make you feel? Depressed!!!
So...get moving. Ever heard that saying "A rolling stone gathers no moss." Let's says moss is depression. It cannot build up on you if you are moving and getting on with your life. But if you just sit there...guess what?
The moment you decide to just not care about life, then life with do the same thing back you. When you start living again, life with say "Hey, where have you been? Welcome back...Let's do this!!!"
Life only cares about two things and nothing else...RIGHT and WRONG. Do things right...Life will be awesome. Do things wrong...Well, you are experiencing that right now.
You are upset over a girl who cheated on you...really? She did not care about you or your feelings...but you are going to jump into a hole of depression for her...is that the right or wrong thing to do??
You do realise that there are thousands of women around you that are single right now? who would treat you better...right?
Keep staring at that depression tree, and you will miss the forest of women behind it.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (4 November 2016):
 Yes, people recover from depression all the time. It may not be permanent - depression is like that. However you have to find your coping mechanisms, and you need professional help to do that.
You can't think your way out of depression. You can't read yourself out of depression. You need to do it in conjunction with a professional helper. You cannot do it alone.
Now here is the thing. And you may not be ready for this. But I'm going to give it to you anyway.
You have to make a concious decision to be happy.
You have to decide to find happiness wherever and whatever. It won't come looking for you. It is not an area of life you will stumble into.
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