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*rettyprincess2011
writes:So I have been in a fight with my husband for the last few days, over me talking to a guy friend on the phone. Please keep in mind that this story is going to be onesided, my side, and that (1) I have never physically met the guy (he lives east caost me on the west) and (2) my husband and I have been together since were 13, (now 24 both of us). But I guess he over heard something that sounded like flirting to him and went off. Yeah I filirted with the guy in the past, but as my friend put it, we evolved from that and have a real goodd friendship. But then my husband trolled through my emails and found some of the shit we used to say to each other (mind you this stuff he is getting even more mad about is kike from two + years ago). And that when he says if you really want this marriage then you'll stop talking to the dude. I called my friend up and told this and ended our friendship for my marriage, which only made it worse cause I did it over speak and my friend started talking smack (but who wouldn't really) and then I find out my husband it tell all this to his female friend. I kinda feel like I just had to give up my one friend who knew me as good as my husband, and was of the oppiste sex who could give me another view of things up, why should he have to to? Why do I have make him feel better when I don't think I did anything.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (11 March 2012):
 You were having an emotional affair with your friend, and emotional affairs can be just as damaging as sexual ones. Your husband was right to ask you to stop talking to this guy because in a sense, your "friendship" with this guy was robbing your marriage like a hidden cancer growing under the surface of an otherwise healthy person. You simply cannot do these things, especially when your mate feels threatened, like you have crossed a matriomonial line. You must respect your husband if you love him, and end the friendship. But on the other hand, he should not being having close friends with other women either. What's fair is fair.
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reader, amenthyst3356 +, writes (10 March 2012):
I totally agree with Code Warrior, but it sounds like you two do not have any boundaries set up. He went to his female friend, you two need to sit down and discuss what some healthy opposite sex friend boundaries are. My bf and I had to go through this the hard way, we have a policy never talk about anything we don't want the other to overhear. Nothing sexual, the other can go through anything if they want and never talk about your relationship problem to the other sex besides your partner. When you told your friend that it was your husband making you get rid of him, you showed him that he was united with you, not you and your husband united.
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