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writes:My husband looks at shemale porn, but says he is not gay. The shemale's are cleary men with breast.what do you think? Are there any straight men that like to look at shemale porn?
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reader, madisonguy +, writes (11 September 2015):
So what, he looks at shemale porn...I consider myself to be straight and I like to watch shemale, straight and lesbian porn. Would I ever hook up with a shemale? Probably not.When I first started watching shemale porn I thought I might be gay so I tried to watch gay porn (two guys) to see if it would do anything for me and guess what? Nope, not a thing. I wasn't turned on by it at all.At the end of the day I just like to look at shemales sometimes when I watch porn. It's taboo and exciting because it's different. I think its exciting to me because I like dominant women. The thought of a beautiful woman taking control and using me however she wants, turns me on. The shemales that I like to look at just happen to fit that description.How many of the women that have answered with "he's gay, get out while you can" like to or have watched any form of lesbian porn (two girls in any sex scene) and been turned on or sexually stimulated by it. Is there a double standard here? I think yes. Should your man leave you because of that?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (17 March 2013):
 Yes some straight men do look at shemale (or gay) porn.
Over time heavy porn users can get desensitised to the porn they look at, so they escalate, looking at more and more extreme porn. At some point straight porn is no longer 'enough' somehow, for some, and shemale porn becomes the level of stimulation needed to get off.
Another aspect of porn, and porn addiction, is that the intensity of the experience can be amplified when the material is shocking or shameful. This is the other reason straight men can end up looking at shemale porn: they are looking for a 'buzz' and 'forbidden and wrong' increases that buzz.
Sometimes a guy can get very confused with this and concerned over his sexual orientation. Thinking / feeling he is straight but desiring shemale porn. This is called Homosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
There's a lot of material on the subject here:
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ask-us-iam-attracted-to-gay-transsexual
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2013): In short, as long as he still loves you, is attracted to you, ect. I don't think he's gay. I think it's a fantasy, something so bizarre and taboo that it's arousing. But I'm sure it's embarrassing as hell to have a secret like this, so don't fly off the handle and throw his stuff out on the lawn until you ask him about it. I don't know if I will ever gather the courage to talk about this subject with my girlfriend, but if she ever brought it up, I'd tell her my side and if she doesn't accept me for that, it wasn't meant to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Straight guys can be attracted to shemale/ladyboy porn, its natural, remember some people are born with male genites yet their bodies do not respond to testosterone and they develope along female lines and have a female mentality as well. My belief is that as long as something exists in nature (its not just transsexuals) then their is bound to be a natural attraction to it by the opposite sex, men in this case. For instance, Every body agrees that a woman would have lesbian tendencies if she likes shemales, so we can't have the argument for both genders.
Now, if you want to be sure that your husband has no homosexual tendencies (which could be there anyway whether he likes shemale porn or not), then perform then check which type of shemale porn is he looking at.
All men prefer women, and naturally anything that approaches a perfect female form would be attractive to them. There are too types of shemales/ladyboys... Those that are completely feminized (even though still pre-op) and the other group which is feminized but can still function as male. The first group has an extreme likeness to females and would appeal to almost any man, the second I suspect may appeal more to a homosexual person if he prefers it to the first group.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): I know its been a year since you've sent your post. Since its a popular question I'll share my experience with you.
Straight guys can be attracted to shemale/ladyboy porn, its natural, remember some people are born with male genites yet their bodies do not respond to testosterone and they develope along female lines and have a female mentality as well. My belief is that as long as something exists in nature (its not just transsexuals) then their is bound to be a natural attraction to it by the opposite sex, men in this case. For instance, Every body agrees that a woman would have lesbian tendencies if she likes shemales, so we can't have the argument for both genders.
Now, if you want to be sure that your husband has no homosexual tendencies (which could be there anyway whether he likes shemale porn or not), then perform then check which type of shemale porn is he looking at.
All men prefer women, and naturally anything that approaches a perfect female form would be attractive to them. There are too types of shemales/ladyboys... Those that are completely feminized (even though still pre-op) and the other group which is feminized but can still function as male. The first group has an extreme likeness to females and would appeal to almost any man, the second I suspect may appeal more to a homosexual person if he prefers it to the first group.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (1 September 2009):
 Gay is such a wrong, misleading, inaccurate term. If we were to assume that a gay person is a man with same sex attraction then we would not expect him to be interested in She-male porn, because the images are so feminine. "Gay" porn exhibits manliness. I like the term Same sex attraction. It is definitive. But Gay includes, or could include, Transgendered people, effeminate men, or cross dressers, who may or may not have sexual attraction to people who share their genetic gender. Then there are Homophobes, people who have unreasonable fear of anything that appears "gay". These people muddy the waters and discourage understanding, by lumping everything into one category. I read the other day that wondering about your sexual orientation was a positive sign that you could not be "straight". Just simple paranoia, like assuming that anyone who is not just like you must be "gay". What I am saying is that the issue is much to complicated to judge so quickly.
I personally don't think that your husband is attracted to men. I do believe that porn is desensitizing, it makes you want more and more extreme images. Based on that theory, Your husband has reached a point where the mixed image of a man with breasts excites him. I don't believe this is good for him or his relationship with you. Some people will disagree with me. They will also claim that viewing images doesn't lead to experimentation. There is evidence that it can.
To give you a straight answer from a Straight man, Yes, there is evidence that many straight men view transsexual (she-male) porn. And countless other variety's of unusual porn. I do worry most of all about the desensitization.
If you really want to know what it is that excites your husband, you will need to communicate openly with him. Without accusations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): It doesn't mean he's gay it could mean that he's one of those guys that like it when girls use a dildo on him :) I think it's gross and weird but it's human nature..
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): I've never experienced this so i can't really answer in great detail, but i'm a straight male and i don't look at this sort of stuff and i have never known a straight male who has, so i'm gonna have to say no, it's not normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): I think what he's telling you stands up. She-males exist to cater to basically straight men. As far as I'm aware gay men don't have any particular interest in she-males. It isn't really my thing but I certainly have looked at she-male porn (and judging from how much of it there is about many others must do too) and I don't regard myself as being even one tiny bit gay.She-males provide an interesting study into the extent to which straight men are attracted to females or to femininity. I live in Asia and so I've seen quite a lot of these girls in bars and they can be absolutely stunning. I've never been with a She-male but honestly, given a choice between having to make love to a 160 lb roughish looking natural born woman or a great looking 110 lb she-male cutie, I'd go for the latter because she's sending off more femininity than the actual female.I think that pyschologically part of the underlying appeal of she-male porn is the thought that here is someone who has gone to extreme lengths to alter their entire body and also the hormonal / chemical make-up of their body for no other purpose than to make themselves more sexually appealing ..... I'm not saying that it's healthy, indeed I think that it is very sad and there is quite a record of she-males in Asia developing mental disorders, not to mention being more than averagely exposed to STDs but there are some interesting processes at work.All of which to say, no your husband isn't gay BUT if he tells you that he is going to play golf in Thailand for a week with his buddies then you should be concerned!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Different guys are into different things. As matter of fact, there are some straight guys who are into gay porn. Trust, watching she-male porn isn't enough evidence to support the assumption that he is gay.Ofcourse if you feel uncompfortable with the idea, you can politely ask him to cease watching it but otherwise I really don't think its anything to worry about...just enjoy your husband... GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): This is not the answer I was looking for. Since you are a male and could not give me an honest opinion I guess the answer to my question is yes. Straight or gay men like to look at she-male porn.
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reader, LazyGuy +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Do straight men post on agony aunt sites?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Depends on who you ask but alot of cultures do not consider shemales to be men at all. So off that i would say no. But if you notice him watching gay porn and watchin ungodly hours of Queer has FOlk and lifetime, you might have a problem
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reader, UnfortunateReality +, writes (31 August 2009):
NO straight guys do not look at shemale porn...he is either bisexual or has feelings of being with a man and is attempting to justify such with a shemale(STILL a guy)you need to have a serious and truthful discussion with him, but it seems he is covering up. If you still get the I'm straight, blah blah excuses you must take some type of action before he actually implements a live action with a shemale which of course would leave you devistated and at risk for sexual diseases. Perhaps some type of marital counseling will get him to speak the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): It's possible that he's straight. Sometimes you're just looking for something new. You get desensitized to the same-old, and need to see something more extreme to get the same effect. I've looked at porn that features stuff I'd never be in the same room with in real life, but it did what I needed it to do.It's possible that the shemale stuff is just hitting a deep kink and it's not something he wants to try in the RW. It's also possible, as you fear, that it means he's repressing bi impulses. You'll never know until he's willing to be candid with you.
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