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writes:I just recently found out that my husband has been in touch with an old girlfriend .. email.. and had sent her $200 for her birthday and $400 last Christmas .. and he refuses to put my name on his bank account... I saw all of this on his email .. I’m ready to divorce him because the trust is gone.. only been married for 3 yrs..Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2018): Once a women loses respect for her man its over.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (16 August 2018):
 I think you have already decided what you need to do but are feeling a little hesitant to go forward so let me give you the little push you need. In 3 years time he has been 1. deceptive 2. secretive 3. more than likely cheating. What else do you need sweetie?
My advice? Get yourself a good divorce lawyer. What on earth reason could he possibly have for not putting your on the bank account and giving an ex what I consider large amount of money? I don't know how he can possibly get out of this looking innocent.
I'm sorry for you...I know it has to hurt. Don't let him sweet talk you though..life is too short to be with someone you can't trust. Good luck with everything. HUGS
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2018): Uhm, you're going to divorce him! So what advice do you expect from us?
Be sure to get yourself a good divorce-lawyer. If he never put your name on his bank account; he's hiding assets, and he doesn't want you to see what kind of transactions are clearing his account.
I think talk is cheap at this point. He's emailing and sending cash to an old girlfriend; and he's being secretive about it. Cheating and/or abuse are the two most justified reasons for divorce I know. I see little reason to waste time talking. What's he going to divulge? You know more than you want to know. It's too hard to regain the trust; and people who hide things and carry-on secret affairs don't easily break those habits.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 August 2018):
 Honestly, it sounds like you have already made up your mind, so what are you waiting for?
Life is too short for crap like that.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2018):
 Did you read the emails? Did they explain why he was sending her money for presents? If that was my husband I would be deeply hurt. I am not sure I would be able to forgive him. When you get married your money becomes as one, so he spent your money on an ex without telling you. I can understand why you would be ready for divorce. I think you need to sit down and talk to him and tell him how much he has hurt you.
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