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writes:I thought my family was happy, I had a two year old child and a loving husband and good neighbours everything was perfect.Then two months ago our next door neighbours cousin 'Emma' moved in with him. She's 16 and has a 3 year old child already, I first encountered her when i asked her to turn down the music she was playing. I saw her as a slobben 'chav' she answered the door with a beer can, cigarette in one had and still in pjs at 4.30pm! to top it all she weighs at least 16 stone and has acne.She told me she had finished her exams and her parents had sent her to live with her cousin and take stock of her life. Judging by how she answered the door she was getting far....Anyway i was polite and even allowed her daughter to play with mine, i invited her for drinks etcHowever today i found my husband in bed with her, and she announced she was pregnant by him, and he intends to leave me for that fat common tart.Her cousin says hes not responsible for her but he could send her to some of their relatives in spain if i was willing to pay for her flights and he also said she would probably accept a pay off to stay away, do you think i should offer her money? Another thing is the child shes carrying i asked her cousin if they're was any chance she would give the baby up for adoption or terminate, he says no because she loves the child she already has and would love another equally. does anyone know of a good way to persuade her otherwise?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): Your neighbours are hustling you for cash, its their plan. Let your husband leave with her if he wants too. If you send her away he'll find another 16 year old. Its not love its lust- in a fat and acne disgusting way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): Firstly, it's not your right to persuade her to give up her baby or teminate so leave that aspect well alone.Secondly, do you really think that paying this girl is going to solve the problem? Sure, it might make it go away for a while but at some point it'll come back. Doesn't this baby deserve to know it's father? What happens in 15 years time when it want's to meet your husband and your life turn upside down again? I'm sorry, but paying someone to go away is never that simple.You also need to address the issue of your husband cheating on you. I think it bothers you a lot that he cheated with someone that you do not have a very high opinion of. You should be very angry about the fact that he cheated and got a child pregnant. Your marriage couldn't have been that perfect if after briefly meeting a 'sixteen stone, spotty, slobben chav' he slept with her and got her pregnant. Husbands from happy marriages don't do that.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (22 July 2007):
I dont see how paying her off would help. You already stated that your husband wants to be with her, so do you think if you pay for her to move far far away, he wont follow? The fact that he wants to be with her pretty much says that you shudlnt waste your money on her, if hes willing to leave your family.
Besides that, i think you need to address the issue that he cheated on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): Please take a reality check here. You are talking as if this is a soap opera and that if you pay money you can keep people quiet - they are just using you. The fact is your husband wants to be with this person? I personally could think of a few words right now for your partner but are you really content to lower yourself to pay money to get rid of a situation like this? The only person who you should get rid of is your husband - he has cheated and whilst I am normally pretty non judgemental I think the humiliation you are suffering has done damage beyond repair. There is a respectful man out there waiting to love you and your offspring properly. Have some self respect and walk away from this whole nightmare - you are more than capable.
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