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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes: My husband texts his ex girlfriend and meets her every week. He doesn't think I should be jealous about this. I try not to let it bother me as he is genuinely in love with me. However, I can't get over the fact that he would even want to meet her. I'm sure he wouldn't want me meeting my ex boyfriend on a regular basis or even at all.
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reader, CANNOLI  +, writes (21 April 2008):
may be because he still loves her. my ex married my girlfriend but still talks to me every day almost and sees me once a week. we hug kiss and have even had sex. i still love him and want him back and i know he feels the same he just doesn't know how to get out of the mess he is in
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): Mmmmm bit of a tricky one. I dont think it would be a problem if it was just a one off or now and again but every week seems a bit much. If he has started a new life with you he should understand this could be uncomfotable for you. I would explain how you feel or even suggest you join them or maybe if she has a partner you could go as a 4 some. If he is not understanding tell him to put him self in your shoes!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 January 2007):
 I like Daysie's idea. Invite her over for a nice dinner and see what's going on. At least you will know then if there is anything between them more than friendship. Good luck.
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reader, Daysie  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 I'd suggest getting hold of his ex girlfriends phone number and ask her yourself, you will only find out the truth from her. I would suspect he is having an affair, if not then what does he get from meeting with her that he doesn't from being with you. If it's companionship then there is something missing from your marriage. Perhaps call his bluff and invite his weekly 'girlfriend' round for dinner or drinks and see how he reacts to that! If he refused to give up his friendship with this woman then start looking up your ex boyfriends and do the same! Best of luck sweetie.
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reader, Xstefx +, writes (17 January 2007):
 i can understand what your going through, you should sit him down and talk to him about this, and ask him why, try not to use an accusing tone, but just ask why. if that fails and he cant give you a decent answer, get in contact with one of your ex's
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): This does sound dodgy. You should start telling him how you really feel about this and for him to start putting an end to it. Does he take you as a fool?
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (17 January 2007):
 It sounds strange to me too.
I think you've hit on a solution . . . start calling on an old boyfriend and see how your husband likes it. What's good for the goose is good for the gander, so they say.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): Presumably he and his ex are now friends, and that's why he keeps meeting her. Because you don't stop seeing your friends when you get married, right?
If you want to see your ex as friends, there should be no problem with that either. You both have to trust each other. I personally don't see a problem with this, but maybe you have trust issues? Talk them over with your husband if it really bothers you, but you can't expect him to change to accommodate your insecurity. That would be disastrous in the long term: what would be next? Work nights out, or golf, or weekends away with the boys?
Why should anybody have to give up friends of the opposite sex just because they're married?
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