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writes:*OP's Original Title*My husband isn't circumcized, and sometimes it turns me off. When I first met him, it wasn't really an issue, because of all the nice things that he used to do for me. But lately we have been trying to get pregnant, and Making love is a priority. Oral sex is very important when it is time for love making, but it really grosses me out. The only time that it doesn't gross me out is when I actually take a washcloth and wash it myself and pull the skin back. We have been married for 2 years and together for 6, and he thinks that I am ok with his penis. How do I tell him that it is an issue for me without hurting his feelings?
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (25 June 2010):
 i am going to make sure i make myself clear...
I just read the previous answers.
No circumizing...
MAKE SURE HE WASHES HIS PENIS
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (24 June 2010):
I am not circumsized.I do not have a nasty dick.It is a matter of hygiene.He needs to get in the shower and wash his dick like I did when I was 4. Your husband is a moron if he has a nasty dick on account of not being circumsized. Tell him to wash it.He sounds like a dysfunctional person.This issue goes deeper for him definitely and possibly for you.Talk. Demand that he wash his penis PROPERLY.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 June 2010):
 It's really painful for a man to be circumcised later in life, weeks of recovery. Plus, a foreskin is a natural part of his body. If it's a huge issue, you should try asking him nicely to pay a bit more attention to hygiene down there (offer to do the same in return).
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reader, Blue Sahara +, writes (24 June 2010):
 If it's just a hygiene thing it's easy to say can you wash up before sex. He knows that stuff gets under it. If you make it no big deal, just a preference than it isn't a big deal.
But it actually doesn't sound like the foreskin is the issue for you. It sounds more like he isn't doing all the sweet things for you like he did before, making love is no longer making love but a means to an end, you have to give him oral sex to get to that means, so by the time you are coming face to face with his penis, it's probably the last thing you want to see! I'm sure if he was circumcised and you guys were going through this you would be hating giving him head just as much.
Maybe you guys need to take some time and think about whether you want a baby right now. If you can't even stand to be around the man's penis, then maybe there are more issues then just him not washing up enough. If you said that you had a problem with his penis from the beginning, I would say something different but it seems like when all was well it was just an little bit of extra skin.
I really hope you never tell him that you don't like his penis. I think that will crush him in some way. I can't imagine my boyfriend telling me he hates my vagina.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Is this about his cleanliness?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 June 2010):
Well, to be honest I think you're going to find it difficult. You're basically asking him to go under the knife for you, after you've married him and already accepted him for who he is. It would be like him telling you to suddenly get surgery because he's not happy with your body. I doubt it would do anything other than hurt you quite a bit. I mean, you could certainly ask him gently whether he'd ever get a circumcision, but realistically this is something that just may not happen. He will either be hurt, refuse to go under the knife or both. He might say yes, but like I say, would you honestly say yes if he said that you had to go under the knife?
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