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writes:Hi,I have been married for a year now. Our marriage was against my husband's parents wishes. We fought even while we were dating but after our marriage its gotten worse. My husband is a very irresponsible man. I literally run the house. He always ends up putting us in a financial mess. He does not have any savings. And the little that I had is also exhausted. Right now he is in a job that cannot afford to pay him. This entire one year of being married to him has been hell. He is caring and all that, but I don't feel financially secure with with...and don't know what to expect in future. Everything with him is uncertain. When I spoke to his sister she says that the whole family thinks of him as irresponsible. I don't know what to do. Whenever I tell him that I want to leave he starts crying and I feel really bad. Please advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): Stop enabling him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): wedding vows…"for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health…" all relationships take work…seriously think about couples counseling…sounds like you've got a lazy and immature boy on your hands…if his family thinks he's a bum…and you're seeing him that way…than chances are, he is…he needs to get his act together…try some positive reinforcement…try boosting his ego a bit and make him feel good about the positive qualities that he does have…he may be depressed…help him look for a good job…i don't know…help give him a push in the right direction
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Well seems to me he needs to buck up and be a man !I have also been through a relationship where I had to do everything and had no help .it wont work if he doesnt put something into it you will always struggle and never get anywheres However if he step up to the plate and does his part you will find that you will argue less and will feel like you have a new leash on life as a couple but a house hold that cant function in a whole will not make it at all . You will always be the back bone carrying all the load and he will be the wimp sucking the life out of you and making you miserable....
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