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writes:I have been married for 2 years I have two kids now one 20 months and another one 6 months when my husband turned 21 last year he started drinking a lot now he drinks once in a while. But now he's starting to go to strip clubs more and more he use to tell me but then he stopped telling me he keeps it from me. I've never liked him going to those places. I feel like I'm not good enough for him. Since I'm a student a mom and a house wife he use to give me money to spent. Now he prefers to go to strip clubs which I thinks is cheating and were always arguing about that. He has paid for several lap dances and also has gotten several numbers when I ask him he says there just friends.
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reader, angel91  +, writes (10 May 2013):
sit him down and tell him that his behaviour isn't acceptable. he's acting like a child, a single one at that, but reality is quite different - he's a husband, a dad and is meant to be a provider. Tell him he needs to get his act together and take responsibility for his family. If he didnt want to settle down, he shouldnt have married and had kids so young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2013): Any particular reason why this was something okay with you to begin with? You say you don't like it or want him to be doing it, yet, you did and still are allowing it.
That man has absolutely no business being in strip clubs or getting lap dances or anything else like that when he has a wife and two small children at home.
For whatever reason the two of you have jumped right into major adulthood at a very young age and only one of you is being responsible. The other one is living like he's a free, doing his own thing, young man (which at his age and yours, that's what you should be doing, so it's going to be a challenge to give all that up).
It's time to sit down and have a long talk about this. For starters, he's pissing away money that could be saved for your future. Just think how much you could have saved in 10 years if you put $100.00/month away. Nothing wrong with both of you getting together once in a while with friends and going out and having some fun. However, what needs to change is WHAT the fun is. What he is doing is innappropriate, disrespectful and if this was my man, and he kept going anyway, he would be kicked out of the house and he would be free to do whatever he likes because I would not put up with that crap in my life with two children. At least he's not drinking too much....I'm sorry you are in a mess here. He better step it up and knock this crap off or the two of you are in for a heap of trouble. If a skank stripper is rubbing all over him and he's getting phone numbers, your instincts are correct. Listen to them.
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