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*amara robert
writes:Hi cupid,I have been married for 7 years and have always been honest and faithful to my husband. My husband is extremely possessive and controlling, he does not even let me wear any thing that I look sexy in when we go out. He gets angry if any man gives me an admiring glance. I am an ex-model, my husband is an ordinary looking guy.He gives me everything I want, but is rude and nasty to me. He tells me that I am a fool, and I am worthless. He does not respect me at all. He always has the last word in a fight. A while ago, an arguement turned ugly and he physically abused me. He watches a lot of porn and masturbates. We have sex on week ends. I have set up spy ware on his computer with which I can moniter his internet activity. My problem is he does not work but has a lot of money. I am a working women and I do not know what he does when I am out. He has registered in Adult friend Finder, Sexsearch.com, and 8 other similar sighs(He has set up a profile of him self, looking for discrete fun, dating, 1 on 1 sex and video chat). He is always lying about things and gets very abusive when I confront him. I have created a false account for my self and have been mailing him. He promptly responds to those mails. I want to walk out on him, but I do not know if he is a potential cheater, or has already cheated on me before.His membership in these sights date back to 2006 and has continued registering in more and more sights. Please help, I need some valued opinions. I don't know what to do.Thanks- Tamara
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reader, Sunflower1969  +, writes (27 November 2009):
OMG!! Get out of this relationship now. He is abusing you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): hey,I am an Indian lady.Agony aunt "Ginalolabridga" has given you the best advice.Hugs.You deserve a man who respects you and loves you.Someone who is trustworhty,caring and loving.
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reader, generalist +, writes (10 November 2009):
hey tamara,i can understand what exactly you are going through....and me being an indian i understand what kind of social restrictions you have to obey if at all you want to speak this thing up to any body upfrontly....now, i am the one you can speak to always...ok as far as porn sites are concerned ,its not neccessary that he must be cheating with you.u know as you said that you are goodlooking and were a ex-model and your husband is not as good looking chap,hence may be ,i feel he is under huge psychological pressure in terms of being as good as you.so when he is alone may be thats the way he must be getting this peer pressure released...secondly he responds to unknown mails quickly that does mean that he just wants get connected to somebody who listens to him as somebody without carrying any pre conceived notions and gal on the net is easy way out.i am not taking his side but you know before concluding any thing I guess its better u have the open talk and remove all the cob webs in your mind and see how exactly he reacts on the same...as you said that you are doing everything he expects from you but the transperent talk with each other can furher strengthen your bond and will help your husband avoid all the porn practices he is getting indulged into..keep me updated.regards..
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): When respect goes out of a marrige then what is left?People only go on adultfriendfinder for casual sex, I should know Im regestered (sad but true). I am not married or in a relationship though. If I was then I would remove myself straightaway. If he is hitting you then its over, get away from him right now before he really hurts you. Women do get put in hospital due to abuse you know.What you need right now is a fresh start in life, get away from him and meet some new friends. I know in India thats easier said than done but you have to do it.Every moment you stay the more damage it is doning to your confidence and your selfrespect. When they go so does your life. It is that serous. Go now!!!!
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