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*ee33
writes:My husband and I have been together for 22 years. He is very critical of just about everything I do. He tells me he loves me and wants to do everything with me. He is constantly accusing me of having affairs. We are a blended family with 5 children, 2 his 1 mine and 2 ours this in itself causes more problems. He threatens to leave at least once every 6 months but never goes. I am tired of playing games and some days I am fine but most I am not, I am getting more and more depressed. I have no independent income and feel trapped. What can I do? I have tried talking to him but he just says that he goes to work and I don't.
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reader, Dee33 +, writes (5 July 2011):
Dee33 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Aunt Honesty
Thank you for your reply. I have started to let my husband know that I am not happy and that I am not scared if he leaves me in effect I called his bluff. Things are starting to improve but I know I have to be consistant or they will slide back again.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 July 2011):
 Just ask yourself are you truly happy? Off course you are not, you sound miserable and depressed. He needs to get out of your life, either that or you will live the rest of your days unhappy. Tell him you both need a break. He needs to see that you are serious about this. Agree to a split trial to see how you both get on. If the children are still young he will still need to pay for them. Money shouldn't be the big thing here as happiness is worth so much more. Maybe you could look for a part time job and start living your life again. He needs to see how miserable he is making you and the only way he will realise how unhappy you are is if you tell him it is over.
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