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writes: My husband and I have been married for four and a half years. We have been together for eight and a half years. We have two kids. I stay at home while he works full time. My problem with my husband is he doesn't help very much with the kids. He explodes at them for little things. He was diagnosed with depression after our first kid. They are only 15 months apart. Our life was rapidly changed just before our wedding, I quit working, I was going to go back after the wedding, but I got pregnant. Then six months after my firtst I was pregnant again. I feel this is some of his depression problems, taking care of us. Well we are pretty good as a couple, but the thing is, the kids. We have diffrent views on rasing them. I think he is very mean to them. And we got in a huge fight over them and he told me this wasn't working. He left us to stay at a hotel. He said we needed a break from each other. I don't know what to do. I want to make this marriage work. I suggested councilling, but he is not in to that. Plus where we are(small town) there aren't many good ones. I want him to be a good dad. He seems to be anger with them and me all of the time. Please help.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (18 July 2005):
I have had depression and i have also been brought up in a similar environment to yours with your husband.
I seriously suggest, for the sake of your kids, that you at least take a break from living with your husband at the moment. Tell him that you dont feel that it is a stable environment for the kids to be brought up in.
allow him to see the kids as much as he wants.
Try again to get him to go to counselling (either with you or alone) I used to think it was a lot of rubbish too but it really helped me.
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