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41-50,
*andie
writes:Please help! I am 33 years old and have been married for nearly 7 years. My husband is an alcoholic and has been throughout out marriage. We have no children although granted this is due to my husband being incapable of lovemaking most of the time due to alcohol. We have been through many difficulties with money issues etc and have always managed to pull through but I now ask myself am I wasting my life with him? I am overweight through comfort eating and have zero self confidence. I settle for being with him because I don't believe that anyone else would ever be with me. We still have money worries as he would spend every last penny on booze. I feel so unhappy but have nowhere to go if I left him. He has disgusting personal hygiene habits which I believe can be due to alcoholism. Sometimes I even have to ASK him to shower or brush his teeth. I feel he is more like a child than a partner. I feel I could be happier without him but am scared of making the break due to my lack of self confidence. My life is worthless and I wish I could have someone who loves me for what I am. I sometimes wonder if my husband would even notice if I wasn't here except he would run out of clean clothes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): Dear BonnieSueThanks for your advice. It's not as easy to go far and beyond to help someone who will not admit that he has a problem. I have tried everything in my power to get him to seek help but to no avail and this is why I have asked for advice on this site. I have said I will support him in any way I can but the ultimate decision to admit his alcoholism has to be his, as I have read on the AA website.
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reader, bonniesue  +, writes (13 April 2009):
If your husband has been like this for a while, why the hell havent you gone far and beyond to help him? I lost my best friend and her bf to alcoholism a year ago. I forwarded them over to a ton of different programs and centers, including this place called LakeView Health Center and http://www.recoveryconnection.org /?utm_source=blog&utm_medium=pv&utm_content=zs&utm_campaign=home
Please, for your sake and the sake of others, get him help ASAP. Don't lose a loved one like I did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): Thank you ladies for your helpful advice. I will take it on board and try and sort my life out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): HiYou may be co-dependant worth looking at sites on this topic ...possibly need to look at yourself more , as Zarathustra suggests...to understand.When you get more knowledge you can help yourself better and in the long run maybe even your husband. That does not necessarily mean staying, sometimes you have to break away or you go down together.via con dios.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): You just got two of the best answers.
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