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writes:My bf and I recently broke up. Well we broke up yesterday. He said it was because my parents refused to let me go away with him and his family for the weekend. But I know that that was not the only reason. We had a lot of problems. In the beginning we both spoke about our exs quite a bit but after a week that faded away and we fell so in love with each other. Things went well for quite a while but then he broke up with me a month and a half later saying I was being bitchy by not wanting to go out and not wanting to meet his mother. We got back together two days later and things were perfect again. We were going out a lot more and I met his mother. The problem started there. She is a really confusing person. She never spoke to me and when I showed up or left she didn't greet unless I greeted her. I ignored it but it was a bit of a problem between us. I eventually asked him why she was like that towards me and he said she was like that with everyone he took home to meet her. I brushed it off but it was still in the back of my mind. Last night when him and I were talking things through and I brought up the whole thing of his mom and he told me that she reused to let him break up with me. Its confusing because she never really spoke to me so how could she like me enough to want me and him to stay together? But that was just one thing. We always used to fight and argue about everything. I always pushed him and things. After awhile he told me he was not happy with me and I changed to please him. In the beginning of the year he went away to university and we broke up or so we thought. We were still together and things were going relatively well. I saw him for the first time in 3 months about two weeks ago. He slept over at my place for the weekend and on the Saturday we hardly spoke and when we eventually did we started fighting and we broke up. By Sunday things were perfect again. He went back home on Sunday evening and I saw him again on Tuesday. We spent the day at the Zoo with my sister (her b-day present) after that him and I went back to his flat and things got carried away the way they did before he moved away and I slept with him again. It was the 3rd time we had ever done it. I kinda regret it because he was my first and now we are no longer together. A week ago (Saturday) we were busy chatting to each other on Facebook and he told me that he wants to give us a chance agin. I wanted the same and I asked him to be with my again. Things went really well and 2 nights ago he came down with my dad to where we live. We had a good chat and then went to bed. Saturday morning his mom showed up at 11 and he went home. I later SMSed him and told him what my parents had said about me going away with his family for the weekend. He got angry and said he didn't want to be with me anymore. I was shattered. He then later came to my place and said i deserved a face 2 face explanation. We spoke about it all for 2hours and he told me that it would be for the best and we had decided that things would be better this way. I really don't want it and I want to prove to him that I can change and be a better person, the girl he wants to be wih. How do I do that? Any help would be dearly appreciated :) Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've tried that but I've been thinking perhaps I should ask him to make the list. It might be better from someone elses point of view. I really do love him and would give anything to have him back again but this is just in the way. That and my parents that refuse to let me go away with him and his family.
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