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writes: My husband and I have been together since we were 15 we are now 26 and I accepted his moods and the fact that he made it clear that I should not expect romance as its not in his nature. We never fought. I thought we had the perfect marriage. He admitted he never loved me. He insults my looks and intelligence constantly now but wants me to teach him how to love me. Shouldnt it come naturally?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2006): He is so not worth it,he has no respect for you and like you say he constantly insults you,leave him hun and go and find someone who will love and cherish you.You cannot possibly teach your husband to love you,it should come naturally.Don't put up with anymore of his nasty insults and comments,if i were you i would leave,you are only 26 sweetheart your life is not over,life is for living and being happy-go and live it.x
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reader, bonym  +, writes (28 August 2006):
 My dear this is not healthy, you have been together for 11 years and all this time he didnt even love you. How did you get together? Are you intimate? My dear, I cant possibly say just get up and leave, as you have invested a decade and 1 year of your life to this man, but he is not a very nice man if he insults your appearance and intellgence, thats out of order. I dont think you can teach him how to love you, he needs to seek some kind of help as he has a deep seated problem. There must be a reason why he is unable to love. You need romance in a relationship otherwise its just like a friendship. xXx
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reader, bonnismiles +, writes (28 August 2006):
 hi hen im just gonna be honest its what i do this aint perfect it aint right you dont need a man what is gonna call you down you dont deserve it and if a man told me he didnt love i sure wouldnt be sitting there now thats my opinion and p.s everyone needs a bit of romance in there life
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (28 August 2006):
 Hi. I'm not sure what the perfect marriage is, but what you describe sure doesn't sound like it. If he insults you, says he doesn't love you, and apparently doesn't show you affection, why did he marry you in the first place (and why did you agree?)? What exactly is 'his nature'? If he has a thing for show tunes and Doris Day/Rock Hudson movies, you might have a closet queen on your hands. If at 26 he needs to be taught about the birds and the bees, it may be too late to save him. GOOD LUCK!!!
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reader, fATTYNATTY +, writes (28 August 2006):
 deep down you know how far you can be pushed, do you think you should stand for this. 26, your still young and full of love you sshouldnt let him insult you though. have you seriously sat him down and told him how you feel and how it hurts when maybe a swift insult from him to you, means nothing to him but everything to you???
iif you think mentally you couldget over him saying he doesnt love you then your heart should say weather you want to teach him to love or let him learn him self . xxx
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